[notmakingsense]

You know, I think that a lot of us here in the coping section are also the ones that wrestle the most with our self-esteem.

For me, one of the most painful aspects of my breakup is thinking that I just wasn't good enough for her.

Talk about negative! In reality, there were things about her that weren't good enough for me. But despite that, I somehow managed to put her up on that pedestal, and suddenly life became all about her and how I needed to live up to something that was good enough for her.

The irony of it all is that the very act of putting her up on that pedestal, and going all out to please her was probably one of the big things that worked against the relationship! Funny how things work, huh?

So, anyway, I'm just venting. But... you will often read here that you should move on, and work on yourself. Please do that -- just avoid translating that into thinking that you weren't good enough. Its a bad mental path to go down. Trust me.