[nosex]

I have been married to my wife for eight years im 30 shes 28 and we have a 5 year old daughter. she works I stay at home for now, I have been waiting for a job to start im hired but had to wait for a security clearance. i do all the housework take care of the kid, cook, i do everything except laundry. my problem is my wife wont have sex, wont show any affection at all, if I try to kiss her she turns her head. im good to her i treat her right but she nags and bitches at me if i dont do something exactly the way she likes it done.
we actually went 5 years with no sex at all 5 years! all though i must say one year i was in Iraq but I came home for two weeks and she still wouldnt have sex with me or kiss me or sit with me or anything for that matter. about the only thing we do together is smoke cigarettes on the porch and sometimes when i go to loin her she yells at me to leave her alone. after i was finished with Iraq we had sex a few times things were great but now its back to no sex no affection just yelling and bitching. and I feel i havent done anything to warrant this abuse. she says its because she gained weight but i always tell her how much i love her and how beautiful she is. i think its because shes a control freak and she wants to control every aspect of the household because she cant control herself. someone please help me