Which Is Worse

MIOSBORNE · 11th January 2006, 2:55 AM

Sometimes I wonder if it feels worse to be alone or to have a spouse living with you when they don't want to be there and lies to you constantly about everything with being distant also. We slept with our backs to each other when we did sleep in the same bed. It's amazing how your brain knows a person is no longer for you but your heart sometimes doesn't listen. Sometimes I feel better when I think of how I was living the last few months she was still here.

dgiirl · 11th January 2006, 7:41 AM

For me, my stbxh came home one day and left the next. So i never went through that torture of seeing them and yet them not wanting to be with you. Sometimes I think it was easier for me because there were no games. He simply made the decision and left. At other times, i feel sad because maybe we could have had a chance had he stayed here just a little longer. But the truth is, it makes no difference. The situation played out the way it did and no need to cry over spilt milk.

lilmoma1973 · 11th January 2006, 8:51 AM

Probably being in a house with a spouse and them not wanting to be there would be the worst atleast being alone you don't have that ..

MIOSBORNE · 12th January 2006, 11:15 AM

WW calls yesterday sounding depressed saying she hasn't found a job yet. She even asked me for money!! Anyway, whenever I bring up me filing for D she gets moody and quickly changes the subject saying we will "talk about it later". I still have not called her first or asked her to come back or asked if she is still seeing OM. I suspect they are probably still talking but probably can't see each other because of money and distance. She usually is kind of quiet and it is almost like she wants to tell me or ask me something but is holding it back. She is upset because her mom and aunt encouraged her to move there and that she would work for the aunt keeping elderly in her home. The plan fell through when the aunt's sister came home and gave the job to her instead. She is also asking me personal questions about bills and if anyone is staying with me. If we are really over, why is she concerned about my personal life. Maybe it is her ego because I have not asked her back and have pretty much moved on.