my bf and i had been together for about a year . we just broke up a week ago. he asked for a break up through phone while i am away for a trip. the thing which confused me is why all of sudden he asked for that. few days before , he said he missed me, he really loved me , he would proove it to me that he loved me . all of sudden he said he didnt want the relationship anymore and he said that we are not compatible , we are not suppose to be together. he asked me to be with someone else n said that he is a bad guy. he asked me not to see him anymore, and said that he wont change his mind . he said that from that point i just one of his ex and he said it is time to change. i asked him what had happened, he said that he didnt miss me anymore n he told me to wake up n get real . i asked him whether he had someone else. he said no, he said that i could come and check or see to proove that he doesnt have anybody else. but of course i will not do that . no point doing that . he also asked me when i would be back from the trip. i said to him, why he wanted to know , becoz he said he didnt want me to be with me anymore. then he just said.. that he glad that i got his point - not to see him anymore. i was really speechless during that phone conversation. shock and shaken.

guys... what i should do ? i miss him a lot and want to see him ... but i am afraid that he may reject me and scold me again...

[DevinWolfe]

I'm kinda new here but I'll give it a shot. It really sounds to me like he does have someone else or is in the process of trying to be with someone else. That is probably why he said he is a bad guy and wants you to be with other people. And the fact that he doesnt want to see you points to the possibility' of him feeling guilty by seeing your face. Plus the fact that he broke up with you while you were away shows a bit of a cowardice side to him, because he couldnt face you to do it like a man. If he has done something wrong like that then he doesnt want to feel guilty for it. And if he is going to a be a dirtbag then he isn't worth your time. Find someone worthy of your love. You should NOT go see him.

Hope that helps a little.

[slubberdegullion]

DW may be new here, but he's obviously pretty smart. I concur; your ex shows a cowardly streak a mile wide by breaking up with you the way he did.

Good thing you found out about this now rather than another year or more down the road.

So take the time to grieve the loss, but KEEP NC (no contact) to allow yourself time to heal.

Good luck. You're going to be fine.

[Brittanyjean06]

Wow, im really sorry you had to go through that phone conversation- He does seem like a coward- and just a big jerk. Hes tryign to be nice but at the same time i dont think he really cares-


as much as you are hurting- you will hurt for a while, but don't go begging that craphead- your ment for someone better

thanks for your support and reply. i will not call him or contact him. .....

[salmagundi]

I am a guy and here's my guess...

He is definitely with someone else. He was before he gave you that speech about proving that he loves you etc. He did that because he was having second thoughts about the other girl, felt guilty etc. But while you were away he (or she) convinced himself that he wanted to be with her. He was brutal with you to make sure you stay away and dont come around chasing him because...he is with a new girl. He probably calculated that being a cold-assed jerk was the best way to get you to forget him quickly.

He is jerk

You should get over him quickly.

As I say, all this is just my guess but I pretty comfortable making it

all the best..

salmagundi

Guys thanks alot...
i dont know whats wrong with me. but after reading all the comments you given to me, i felt so relieved . so now i know it was not my fault. i dont feel guilty anymore whether i did wrong things that make him ask for a break up. and i feel glad that it means i am free from the worse possiblity. now i can smile and i am not going to be sad anymore. i know i should be happy. just feel u in, he had a wife before. n he always said to me his last marriage was broken down becoz of his wife cheated him. now... i can see the bigger picture .well... he is totally my past now ... n i will look forward ..i wont waste my pain.
thanks to you all.. .however , if any news from him i will keep you guys posted...