My husband of 16 years told me last February that he wasn't happy and wanted a divorce. I was absolutely shocked. I thought everything was fine and couldn't figure out for the life of me why he was so unhappy. I never saw any signs that he was. I begged him to go to counseling, he refused, and so I tried my best to hold everything together for several months. He finally left in August when I discovered he had been having an online affair for almost 3 years! He filed for divorce a month later and we've been in divorce limbo ever since. Upon moving out he immediately joined several online dating services. This entire situation has left me questioning myself. Is there something wrong with me? My friends repeatedly tell me how cute and funny I am and even several people have said, "HE left YOU? Are you sure it's not the other way around?!".
My self-esteem being on the rocks, I got involved with someone I shouldn't have (he's married). This man was the total opposite of my husband and I fell for him hard. For two months I didn't give my husband a single thought. He (the mm) is having serious family issues and we haven't spoken in a week. I have no idea where our relationship stands at the moment and I'm almost hoping that it's over. There must be a nice, single man out there somewhere...
Last night one of my good friends told me that my husband sent her wink via an online dating service they both belong to. They met once several years ago and my husband obviously doesn't remember her. I knew he was doing this, but to wink one of my friends hurt like he**. I was able to read his profile and it was full of lies. It was all about how honest, caring, religious, and attentive he is. I just wanted to puke. Not only that, but at the time he winked her, my two children were with him at his apartment. He probably had them watching a movie while he was doing his online girlfriend surfing.
Does anyone have any advice for me? I just feel like something is wrong with me. I thought we had the perfect life. How could he have been so unhappy?
He has said numerous times in the past how we're in it for the long haul and how the kids and I were his whole life. I just don't get it.
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