I've been wondering what other people think of this. If a woman is a stay-at-home wife/mother and her husband works full-time, do you think the husband should be obligated to help with any household chores? (By the way, same question would apply in reverse if it's the husband who stays home.)
I would rather my future wife not stay home but if she does then yes he should help clean up as well. I don't see why cleaning is such a bog deal anyway. I get my house clean in 2 hours and I have had women compliment me on how nice my place looks. Housework does not have to be a big deal.
I would rather my future wife not stay home but if she does then yes he should help clean up as well. I don't see why cleaning is such a bog deal anyway. I get my house clean in 2 hours and I have had women compliment me on how nice my place looks. Housework does not have to be a big deal.
Guess that depends how well you clean and how big a place you have. It can take longer than 2 hours and besides there's laundry, food shopping, cooking, taking care of kids, etc. etc.
But anyway, that's not the point. You're saying that a husband should help around the house? Why? Just curious. Why do you think he should help around the house. Isn't that her full-time job? Can you clarify? Because my question wasn't what type of wife you prefer (stay-at-home or working). No. I really want to know what people think as far as whether the husband (or working spouse) should be doing any house chores? And why or why not?
Guess that depends how well you clean and how big a place you have. It can take longer than 2 hours and besides there's laundry, food shopping, cooking, taking care of kids, etc. etc.
But anyway, that's not the point. You're saying that a husband should help around the house? Why? Just curious. Why do you think he should help around the house. Isn't that her full-time job? Can you clarify? Because my question wasn't what type of wife you prefer (stay-at-home or working). No. I really want to know what people think as far as whether the husband (or working spouse) should be doing any house chores? And why or why not?
Yes he should do chores. It's his house as well. I realize I have no kids but Cleaning takes 2 hours and I only shop once a week unless I really need something or get a craving. Laundry I can just put on and come back in 45 minutes. To me if both people live in the house it is both their job to keep it up.
If you are a stay at home mom and your husband brings home the paycheck then hell yes, you should have that house spotless! And perhaps a dinner on the table too. He should not be expected to do anything but pay the bills and care for and spend his time with his child.
I am a women saying this. I have no kids but tell you, if I did I would not accept being a stay at home mom while my husband goes and gets the bread and butter. Not fair and child care is child care for a good reason.
I'm a stay at home wife/mom. My husband works full time and he helps me out. Theres alot of men/women that think that if they work outside in the world, that once their foot hits the door home they have no other responsibilites. However, if you're in a marriage and especailly have kids as well, then yes the chores/housework should be shared. Stay at home mothers/fathers have a job too, that never ends, they work 24/7, even though they may not get a paycheck and don't punch a time clock. Just my 2 cents.
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Obviously the majority of the day to day stuff the stay at home wife/mom is going to take care of during the day, but he H still needs to help out in the evenings, i.e. dinner dishes, etc. I firmly believe that the H should take the majority of the responsibility for evening duties with regard to the kids. He hasn't seen them all day, and young kids are gonna go to bed a few hours after he gets home. He should be feeding them dinner, giving them their baths, and putting them to bed.
I stayed at home with my last child for nearly two years. (I did have part-time jobs to feel more like I was contributing.)
I did as much of the housework as I could. I would get the kids to help with age-appropriate activities since they should learn how to care for their space and learn responsibility as well. Hubby would take care of what yard work I didn't do and he would do any maintenance. He is a good Mr. Fix-It.
I think that both people should put forth an effort to get things done in order to have time to spend with each other. I think that each person should do the chores that they are good at or if someone hates the vacuuming and the other doesn't mind it, then that can be a deciding factor in who does what.
I think that specifics should be discussed as if it were a full time job for the SAH-mom. If I stayed home, I would do the basic household chores such as laundry, vaccuming, dusting, bathrooms, but I would also expect that he cleans up after himself, putting his clothes away, helping with meals and dishes and maintenance around the house (man's work!) lol
It's a partnership.
I remember once hearing Dr. Laura say that the chores should be split based on household income...what a load of crap!
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I also am a stay at home mom and totally believe that when the man comes home he should spend time with the kids and help out !! Some men and women think that cause they work a job that that can clock out of their job at work ,and leave the stay at home person do everything else!! I think that when they come home they should help with putting them the bed!! Is it really that much to ask especially when it is only for a few hrs before the kids are off to bed!! I guess what i am trying to say that you should work together isn't that what a marriage is a partnership!!!
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If you are a stay at home mom and your husband brings home the paycheck then hell yes, you should have that house spotless! And perhaps a dinner on the table too. He should not be expected to do anything but pay the bills and care for and spend his time with his child.
I am a women saying this. I have no kids but tell you, if I did I would not accept being a stay at home mom while my husband goes and gets the bread and butter. Not fair and child care is child care for a good reason.
Shana, thanks for your input. I just didn't get one thing. What do you mean you would not accept being a stay at home mom if you're husband is working? You think BOTH parents should always be working and a child needs to be in daycare? Just curious...not sure I understood. Thanks.
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I guess what i am trying to say that you should work together isn't that what a marriage is a partnership!!!
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