To answer the original question, I think the whole point of game playing is camouflage. A good "player" will by definition be hard to detect. Sadly.
I think the best strategy is to get to know them slowly. And not to get too involved too quickly. A facade is easy to project in the short term, but difficult to maintain in the longer term.
Key indicators have got to be their relationship with their family, the quality and quantity of their long term friendships and the degree to which they get on with colleagues. If they're generally on good terms with exes - and they don't have a disproportionate number of exes - that's a good sign too.
It depends very much as what u define as playing games... Men usually do what there heart desires... If they dont call its cause they dont feel like it etc,,,
If u like a person there are no excuses... Its not very often when we really like someone in a short amount of time....
Some times people play games... ie annoy each other cause they feel annoyed or they want reaction... But we need a definition on game playing cause we all play tiny little ones at some stage...
Key indicators have got to be their relationship with their family, the quality and quantity of their long term friendships and the degree to which they get on with colleagues. If they're generally on good terms with exes - and they don't have a disproportionate number of exes - that's a good sign too.
RR, come on....charmers can charm anyone, including dear old mumsy and pop-pop. And many times they can flock together with other similarly-motivated individuals who think so-and-so is a great guy, even if he is a bird dog and will try to seduce any moderately attractive female, regardless of relationship status.
Whatever happened to women's intuition. I can honestly say that every time I had a GUT FEELING that a guy was a sleeze, it always turned out to be true. Even if it took 11 months to rear its ugly head.
Theoretically everyone can hide key elements of their personality for approx. 3-6 months, depending on the amount of face time ya get.
My gut feeling (har har) is that, if you have to ask this question, they probably are playing with yer head.
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RR, come on....charmers can charm anyone, including dear old mumsy and pop-pop..
True. But people don't happen in isolation - you will often see reflections of their behaviour either in other family members or in the way they treat or are treated by other family members.
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And many times they can flock together with other similarly-motivated individuals who think so-and-so is a great guy, even if he is a bird dog and will try to seduce any moderately attractive female, regardless of relationship status.
Again, I think you're missing the point - a group of players is way easier to spot and diagnose than an individual.
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Whatever happened to women's intuition.
Intuition is not infallible. I'm sure you've read "Blink"
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Theoretically everyone can hide key elements of their personality for approx. 3-6 months, depending on the amount of face time ya get.
Theoretically everyone can hide key elements of their personality for approx. 3-6 months, depending on the amount of face time ya get.
Oh, I think its much longer than that B_0....look at serial killers who keep their real persona hidden for decades. BTK is a superb example. Another one was that dude in Chicago who buried all those young boys under his house, the one who dressed up as a clown and was a fine upstanding businessman. John W. Gacy I believe it was...
Well yeah, but I bet you anyone who lived with them or saw them as frequently as you would interact with someone that you're dating would have been able to spot it a lot faster.
The problem is that there are certain personality types that the charmers will actively persue. They look for specific personality traits. Hallmarks of codependency, and prey on the people who have some obstacle to a clear perception of others.
And it's a good thing I asked you, RR...your intial post was too vague. Yeah he might have lots of friends he's known for a long time, but you didn't say anything about the type of people he hangs out with.
Snark.
Always with the backpeddling. Ohhhh, I mean all this extra stuff I didn't actually verbalize or communicate but it all goes without saying, maaaaan.
phbt. I lust you.
True. But people don't happen in isolation - you will often see reflections of their behaviour either in other family members or in the way they treat or are treated by other family members.
Oh you'd think so. I thought that. Found a person whose family and colleagues both seemed to admire, enjoy, and like him. Turned out the reason for those reactions was that he was seeming to be changing his alcoholic ways for the better. They were excited I was in the picture and hoped I'd be his agent for change.
When I later asked his sister why none of them let me know about all his issues, she told me they hoped so much that I'd be the person to help him out of his situation.
Spending an extended amount of time in close quarters with someone is, IMHO, the only way to really know him.
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