hey, if anyone can give me some help/advice in this situation...thatd be great!
sooo ive been with my boyfriend for about 7 months now and everything seems really good. he's sweet, genuine and we're very much in love. he recently even bought me a diamond necklace for xmas. the only thing is he never calls me, sometimes when i call him he takes a day or so to call me back. we even went an entire week w/ out seeing or talking to each other and when i called him he acts like nothing has happened. am i making a big deal out of nothing? at first i thought maybe he wanted to break up, but when we're together (always arranged by me) he acts infatuated with me. he used to be really obsessive w/ calling/seeing me all the time at the beginning of our relationship..so maybe im just used to that? i havent said anything to him, cause i think if i do he'll brush it off and im not sure exactly what to say. is this just the effects of the thrill of a "new" relationship wearing off or something more?
I don't think it's a big deal at all. In fact, this is a good example of a guy being a challenge, which probably raises your interest in him. It sounds like he respects you and is basically doing everything right. I rarely call my gf, and we have a great relationship. When I do call, I just make the date, then get off the phone. Save the chit-chat for the date.
But, it is a little strange that you're the one making all the dates. Do you mean that he NEVER initiates a date?
My friend has the same problem. He has great dates with this girl, he said they are some of the best he's ever been on, but they've only gone out 6 times in nearly 3 months, and he initiated all of their meetings. Finally, he decided to step back, and after 2.5 weeks, she called and eagerly asked him out for #7.
In his case, she's playing hard to get. Can't really say what's going on you, but if you got a diamond necklace for Christmas, you don't have much to complain about.
Sounds like he's gotten comfortable in the relationship and a little lazy. I agree with BlueChocolate stop calling and initiating and get him to make the first move (s).
Other option is to discuss it with him - tell him how you feel and THEN stop calling/initiating. I'm willing to bet he begins carrying his end of the bargain.
eeks guys...u have to call a girl..or we just wilt..its torture!~!~
but hey girls/./they dont call cos they usually dont have much to say
so heres what works for most
next time he calls...be really appreciative..every little inch he gives u stroke him a yard..bit by bit.
u cant ask a guy to do more until u tell him how much u appreciate what hes already doing
so ...tell him how great it feels ..how special and loved u feel when he calls u ..
keep it up
dont whinge or whine
wait..and u will slowly turn the wheel
girls never ever swipe with ur claw...u never gain ...a guy remembers something far better if its associated with something sweet...
good luck..i feel for u xxxxx tulle
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