HELP PLEASE!!! When is he going to propose?

inlove4ever · 28th December 2005, 3:28 PM

I need help. My bf is in the Navy and he is in San Diego, and i am in texas. It is soo hard not getting to see him. We are planning on getting married when he comes home in Feb. But he hasn't proposed yet. He has the ring at his mom's house in texas, 6 miles away. He even has bought the wedding ring for me. He was just down for leave for 2 weeks and didnt propose. We are planning a small wedding, but i dont want to get married until he proposes. I don't know what to do. He says that he will but WHEN? I am going to college full time and have a job. I talk to him everyday and we always discuss marriage and what we are going to do, and where we want to have it. If someone has any idea, please help. I am going out of my mind.

slubberdegullion · 28th December 2005, 3:34 PM

Life rewards action.

Don't wait for him to propose to you. Propose to him.

inlove4ever · 28th December 2005, 3:41 PM

but he is so traditional and so far away. should i do it over the phone? will he take me seriously?

slubberdegullion · 28th December 2005, 3:48 PM

Something as important as this should probably not be done over the phone. It needs to be face-to-face. So bide your time until you get to see him again. All will be well.

I'm assuming that's you and he in your avatar?

inlove4ever · 28th December 2005, 3:55 PM

yes, that is me and him. yea, i didnt really want to do it over the phone. But thank you for the advice, I could use all i can get. Thank you.

slubberdegullion · 28th December 2005, 3:58 PM

Well, you two look very happy in the photo. The grin on his mug is one of those, "Hey, ma, lookit what I got!!!" smiles. I have no doubt that things will go perfectly well.

RainyDayWoman · 28th December 2005, 4:50 PM

maybe he just feels like he doesn't want to rush it, or the timing is not right with him so far away...

in any case, if the two of you are ready for engagement and marriage, you should certainly be able to communicate better than you are.

good luck, i hope it all works out.

bluechocolate · 28th December 2005, 5:01 PM

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Originally Posted by RainyDayWoman

in any case, if the two of you are ready for engagement and marriage, you should certainly be able to communicate better than you are.

I was thinking the same thing.

You know he's got the rings, why not jokingly tell him you're not marrying him until he proposes.

If you can talk about the wedding & being married then you can certainly talk about this, can't you?

(and it's possibly that he knows this is driving you nuts & is letting you squirm!)

inlove4ever · 28th December 2005, 5:10 PM

i think that is what he is doing. lol

but his parents dont like me for some reason and telling them that we are getting married is a problem. we are going to just go to the Justice of the Peace and get married, but i dont know when he is going to tell them and he wont tell me when he is going to. I am so confused on what to do.