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Old 25th December 2005, 8:13 PM   #1
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Why do parents want their Children to Marry??

I recently went up to my parents house and found out by their friends that my parents are always talking about me marrying and having children. So far, I am 25 and not been in any relationships or been on consecutive dates. I thought long and hard about this and felt marriage, dating, and chasing women is not for me. I'm not gay but I never had a goal of marrying or having children it just does not matter to me. My parents have tried to set me up on dates, I did them for my parents and they just did not work out. My friends never ask me about marriage nor do any of my female friends questioned my lack of relationships or dating.
My parents have sinced back off the marriage and dating talks to me but this recent spurge from their friends bothers me a bit. Why are they telling their friends so much about their concern of me not marrying and having children? Why not tell me first?
My parents are in a strong marriage they have been married for 35 years and going strong. My sister married and has a child, although my parents are not impressed by her husband. Yet she loves him or so it appears. Yet she too is concerned about me not in a marriage.
I'm caught between a rock and a hard place. I want to marry if I will make my parents happy they want the best for me, but if I do it has to be at the right time with the right person and that has not happened.
Why do parents make such a big deal on these things? why don't they act more supportive in other areas of life? How should I handle this? Thanks for your help and Happy Holidays!
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Old 25th December 2005, 10:03 PM   #2
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Old 25th December 2005, 11:09 PM   #3
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I think parents want their kids to marry for security. They worry about you being alone. They worry that you'll fall off a ladder and no one will be around to find you. They worry that you won't feed yourself. They just worry. That's what parents do when it comes to their kids.

Despite the fact that about 50% of marriages fail, I think the older generations still see 'getting married' as the foundation for a happy, stable life.
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