Does anyone believe in the seven year itch? I know you can become bored at anytime, in any relationship, but do you believe there comes a point in marriage when you just want something (or someone) else different? What is the best way to work through it?
Reason for asking....I have been married for almost 7 years. And I can't help but feel the desire for someone new. The whole idea of spending the rest of my life with my dh isn't a bad idea, but the thought of having the same old sex for the next 10 - 20 years really bites! I want to be with someone new and different. I guess I just want that passion and lust and desire you get from being with someone new and unfamiliar. I know nothing or no man is worth wrecking my home over. But I just can't get this desire for someone different out of my head. And there's one guy in particular....Oh well, I guess it will just stay a fantasy since I don't think I have the "cahones" to cheat on my dh.
I agree, go introduce some toys into the sex life!
Get a haircut, do a big change - Pamper yourself and then make special time for your hubby! Go out on a date with him and pretend to pick him up or he picks you up at the bar. Flirt, wear something very sensual and sexy.
Also, for your own personal benefit, find a passion that you enjoy in life and enjoy it! Could be a photography course, or cooking lessons, actually just thought of this. Grab a girlfriend of yours or your sister if you have one, and go to a BLOW JOB class. No *****!! Not sure where you live, but in Toronto there are places that teach women (and gay men) how to improve giving head! Plus, you learn some new and exciting tricks!! I'm sure your hubby will love that!
Good luck and remember, sex GETS better as the marriage goes on. IT's always going to have it's ups and downs, but when the UP'S hit, it's great!
Good luck and remember, sex GETS better as the marriage goes on.
I wish this was true. I too have been married 7 years and I have suggested to my Wife that we should try experimenting a little so as to add a little excitement into our drab sex life. It has fallen on deaf ears.
ANOTHER 40 YEARS OF THIS ? ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGH
My BF and I are together 5 years and I think everyone falls into the danger of 'the rut'
I really want us to go to a strip club together. I think he thinks I"m joking but I'm not.
I'm not bi, but I find being in sexy environments turns me on. We went to a bar one night in Ocean CIty, MD where all the waitresses and bartenders wore these tiny little hot pants and skimpy tops and it made me feel sexy!
'm not bi, but I find being in sexy environments turns me on. We went to a bar one night in Ocean CIty, MD where all the waitresses and bartenders wore these tiny little hot pants and skimpy tops and it made me feel sexy!
I've been married 8, same story with the dull sex. But from what you're saying, sounds like I should take my wife to Hooter's in a last ditch effort to liven things up.
I know it might sound a little lame, but my long time bf and I have just gotten into the tyical role-playing games and it has totally enhanced our sex life. Take a visit to the "doctors office", "randomly" meet a "stranger" for a one night stand, etc....
There is something to be said for reaching this level of comfort so that you can actually do these things and not feel awkward. If your significant other isn't interested in jazzing things up and doing new things I'd imagine that sex would start to get boring and I don't have any other advice for you! Sounds like a time for some serious discussion and re-evaluations. Even though sex isn't the MOST important thing in a relationship I think it definitlely can make or break one.
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