[Sucker4ya]

Well, where to start. We started dating our Junior year in highschool...we are now Juniors in college. We had a long distance relationship the last 2 years, this year I transferred to the same college he was at...but not only because of him. A month after being down at school...we broke up. For the first 2 weeks he was calling, telling me he loved me and missed me, thought he made a mistake, but he knew he needed time to sort things out because he felt like he was taking me for granted, and he didn't want to do that. Well then he asked a friend to his barndance, and I lost it. I went from cool, calm, collected ex-girlfriend to completely freaked out, losing my mind ex-girlfriend. I called him constantly, I would im him like crazy. Write him emails, stop by his apartment. I wanted him to comfort me, I wanted him to tell me it was still going to be ok like he had promised. Well he said he thought we should take space, complete space...do our own thing for a month. So we did. He started partying hard...something completely out of character for him. And within a couple of weeks he decided we were over...that we just had to move on...only thing is he didn't tell me this until 2 weeks ago...a month after he made the decision. Well, 2 weeks ago when he told me it was over...he promised me that he wasn't looking for a relationship, and there was no one he was interested in like that, so I had nothing to worry about. Well I knew he had been spending time with this sophomore in his business frat, but he said they were friends, they had made out and stuff but it wasn't serious. Well, he tells me this past sunday...they are a couple So now the love of my life is in a new relationship. I can't help but think it is a rebound. He started spending a lot of time with her only a couple weeks after we decided to take complete space. I don't know if it will last between them. If it does, then I know we were never meant to be together like we had believed for 3.5 years...but if we are meant to be together, I know one day we'll cross paths again. I miss him so much though, and it is so hard to just let him go. I want another chance with him...I want to spend the rest of my life with that boy. Does anyone think that this new relationship has helped him bury the feelings he has for us and that IF it doesn't last, he might question whether or not he made the right decision about us? And what can I do to maximize my chances of working things out. He says he wants us to be friends...and I really believe he does because when I've told him I don't know if I can, he gets really upset and says that he never imagined we wouldn't ever be friends...he always wants me in his life. It's hard to think we won't ever be together again...that we won't kiss again, or tell each other we love each other. I just want us back. Advice...anyone?

[Brittanyjean06]

To be friends with him, will just make matters worse on your self!- and even if they dont last---that doesn't meen ya'll were meant to be!----it shows you where he is lacking strength --i think it is easy for him to move on to someone new because here you are making everything so easy on him-there for he knows you will always be there- " you dont know what you had till its gone"..

psshhh he wont be the love of your life- he is the love in the moment of your life--i think you should tell him that you dont think what he is doing is right-why would you want to be friends with someone you love when they are currently involved with some one else- BIG nono- try to calm your self down---at first when something haywire like this occurs you panick and do crazy things---i had done some things my self--all relationships come to an end at some point-as hard and unbaring as that sounds- not all last----and maybe you are ment for someone better....right now dont constanltly call him up-im him/email him go to his apartment---you will only repel him

good luck!

[Brittanyjean06]

Originally Posted by Brittanyjean06

--i think it is easy for him to move on to someone new because here you are making everything so easy on him-there for he knows you will always be ther for him " you dont know what you had till its gone"..

^ on a subconcious level i meen

[johan]

Not sure whether you've read this.. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t75637/

[Sucker4ya]

Yea I haven't talked to him in a while. After that week of freaking out was when he asked for complete space...and I gave it to him. After he had it was when he decided we were over. I don't know, I'm sure I'll meet someone else at some point, but I love him, and from almost the very beginning I knew I wanted to spend my life with him. We planned our future for the last 3 years...it's just hard to let that go. And I know I'm going to be that person who, no matter how much time goes by, how many other relationships I have, I'm just going to be like...ok, I'm one step closer to crossing paths with Jeff again. I wish I would convince my heart it is over...my head knows it is!! But for some reason, my heart keeps screaming, "hey silly...he loved you for so long! You shared everything together...he'll realize what he's walking away from" which is just naive and stupid. but yea...that's me I guess.

[Brittanyjean06]

When these types of changes happen, it is always hard to tell your self its gone, and will be for a long time. Some days you feel fine...and others it hits you so hard and your still in shock

but it happens to the best of us i guess