[angelone]

Hi, I will try to keep this as brief as I can. I am in the UK and my partner is in the USA - I will be returning to be with him in 2-3 weeks time. We lived together as friends, which developed into something more. He had a girlfriend at the time, but did not get along with her at all. She is very manipulative, and I am being objective here, extremely cunning. The problem is he would split with her, and come to me, on and off for the past 7 months. Since we are apart I find it stressful as she keeps contacting him, and I feel I know deep down they are sexually active regularly He empowers her, because he is a compassionate man, thus doesnt like to hurt others (I know this is sounding more nuts as I go on here) anyway, to me it seems he is in love with 2 women. The longer we are apart the more angrier I become. I love and adore this man, and I know he loves me. But he is weak, and I fear that when I return to him, he will carry on seeing his 'ex' while I am with him physically. Im not making excuses for him, and I constantly ask myself is it because I have little self respect for myself? I just dont know how or what to do here because simply I love him.

[P1xie]

She is very manipulative, and I am being objective here, extremely cunning.

Sounds to me he is the manipulative extremely cunning for having two girls at one time

because he is a compassionate man, thus doesnt like to hurt others (I know this is sounding more nuts as I go on here)

How is he being compassionate by sleeping with two women. How is that not hurting someone?

Ask yourself this if he leaves this other woman for you what makes you think later on in your relationship you won't be the manipulative cunning other woman?

[angelone]

I know, I just dont know how to move forward with it all, do I take a risk when I return with him, and possibly get hurt? or do I play it very safe and risk pushing him to her further? as for her being the cunning one, I can understand her bevavor more and more as time goes on, but I dont want to become like her in any way. Very hard when I am so emotionally involved with him. I know he does love me, he doesnt like conflict, and can be very selfish. I would like the chance to make it work with him. Not sure if I should just go with the flow with him...........

Thanks for your reply - very much

[westernxer]

Originally Posted by angelone

...do I take a risk when I return with him, and possibly get hurt?

NO.

This flag is so big and red, I don't see how you could consider moving to be with him. Overseas, too.

[tinktronik]

I absolutely agree with west...The flag is RED , bright red and waving high in the air for you too see.Dont looke the other way , or tint you glasses.If your hones with yourself you'll come to a good descision. Good advise west.