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Hit on other co-workers xmas party date: What to do next?
I went to my company's christmas party on Friday night. As expected people drank lots. I broke up with my girlfriend a week ago and was going stag. I saw this beautiful brunette and smiled at her. A couple hours go by and I see her checking me out-basically staring at me. Her date, this guy from sales that I've seen outside of the office at a concert but never really talk to comes over and we start talking about the concert. He introduces me to his date. Her name is Amanda.
We start talking and really hit it off. She flirts with me. Sending signals like touching my arm, lots of eye contact and basically ignoring her date all night. Even making suggestive comments about my penis size. Over the course of the evening, we keep talking and I even get her a drink from the bar after she complains that her date is acting weird.
At this point of us hanging out for most of the party I'm considering offering her my card and digits in case they break up, but don't.
I tell her that I'm single and recently broke up with my gf. So she knows my status. After we're talking, I see her talking with her date and they're arguing and she storms off leaving. I comment to one of my work buddies that I thought she had got in trouble for talking to me.
My question is, what to do next? I don't want any friction at the office, but would like to at least speak with her again. She could call me at work if she wanted to. Or I can be bold and try calling her. Of course, there's the risk of her date/my co-worker finding out.
She's made her interest in you clear, but the last thing you need is to be the blamed party if she and her current beau split.
She may or may not contact you, but lots of things go on a company xmas parties. I have a rule that I follow with almost-religious fervour: What happens at the company party stays at the company party.
* Do not pursue people who are not happy with their relationship, choose to stay and flirt with you. They're to insecure and troublemaker.
* You have this faible for beautiful women and it always makes you lose your head. I mean, a certain attraction is ok, but you just always get so incredibly excited and dump your common sense ("She could call me at work if she wanted to. Or I can be bold and try calling her. Of course, there's the risk of her date/my co-worker finding out.").
* Please, preserve some dignity and moral and don't go after people that your co-worker is seeing.
Some girls like to talk to other people at things like this. They can talk to their BF at anytime they want, so use events like this to get to know more people.
I think you should try to hit on girls who dont have boyfriends.
Her date is a cool guy and we work together so I wouldn't pursue things unless they split.
She is an abolutely stunning woman and I am sure she is attracted to me. She stayed with me for a while and sent allot of signals. I don't feel this way about most woman I meet (bikini girl aside) so I know it's special.
Maybe her relationship with the guy is on the rocks and I'm the way out. Why should I deny myself the pleasure and company of a 10 if she wants me?
Her date is a cool guy and we work together so I wouldn't pursue things unless they split.
She is an abolutely stunning woman and I am sure she is attracted to me. She stayed with me for a while and sent allot of signals. I don't feel this way about most woman I meet (bikini girl aside) so I know it's special.
Maybe her relationship with the guy is on the rocks and I'm the way out. Why should I deny myself the pleasure and company of a 10 if she wants me?
Reading your posts, my picture of you is that of a nice guy who has some problems reading a woman's signals and whose hopes also get up way too fast. Whatever you say about having a good feeling, it doesn't convince me, it seems more like wishful thinking. This is going to be another flop if you're not careful. I'd wait till she really breaks up, because even if their relationship was on the rocks, you don't want to be the guy with whom she is betraying her boyfriend, do you? If you really considered dating such a girl your ability to judge people's character would also need some more training. I can only assure you, she would be a bad choice.
Yeah I get the feeling you are just reading her all wrong. I think she is just a friendly person, who likes to talk. You gave her the time and attention to listen to her, but I think you are getting your hopes up way too early.
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Hit on other co-workers xmas party date: What to do next?
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