[Genod422]

In my previous threads I have explained of my situation of my gf breaking it off after a year and a half. She was the perfect girlfriend and loved me the whole time but when she started hanging with some new people in this, her sophomore year in college, she changed. Now she changed big time and has feelings for me but she wants to experience things and stuff.

Anyways she was with this kid Doug for a little bit ( we have been broken up for about a month now) and he like totally loves her and it makes her feel weird but she likes him a lot. Anyways she gets drunk a lot and is just so different of a girl than she was. Now there is this kid that tried flirting with her last year and she rejected him because of me and didn't like him and he is now talking with her and they are hanging out together with a group of people tomorrow. She sent him some thing about taking advantage of him when hes drunk and whatnot. She's a virgin.

To me it just seems she is getting this attention from guys and is like "Whoa I must be cool" and she stated in a journal post there are so many guys and she doesn't want to lead any of them on but doesn't want to reject any of them and doesn't want to be with any of them. I feel she is thinking she has to prove to herself she made the right choice by breaking it off with me and she is really jumping into seeing new people to try and prove herself right.

Going from guy to guy was never her thing, she is 19, and went from being set on marriage to falling into a trap of "The grass is greener" and having to party and such. A week before she broke it off with me she was still loving me and being affectionate and cuddly and then she left me and jumped into this new lifestyle, I think she is very confused. I don't want her losing her V Card to some dork, and my friend says she is just immature right now and she most likely won't lose it to just anyone and in time she will realize that I treated her like gold( which I honestly did) and be back but to not wait for her.

Is she just trying these guys on for size or is she looking to be a slut. I hope the latter isn't true because I went without sex for a year and a half and loved her and now some random dude taking it would be unbelievable. It's not just the sex I'm concerned about, if she is just trying different guys out but doesn't want a bf what does that mean? I won't wait for her but will she be back before it's too late or does it sound like she has a learning? I was her first love as well but she feels it necessary to say she "thought" she was in love

[tanbark813]

Very few relationships last through college and almost everyone undergoes some kind of a change. It's a very experimental and formative period. Definitely don't wait for her. She wants to sow her oats, as should you.

Why stick with one girl for a year and a half if you aren't boning down anyway? There are plenty of other girls who, I'm sure, would be glad to help you out in that department. Take advantage of college while you can.

[Genod422]

Originally Posted by tanbark813

Very few relationships last through college and almost everyone undergoes some kind of a change. It's a very experimental and formative period. Definitely don't wait for her. She wants to sow her oats, as should you.

Why stick with one girl for a year and a half if you aren't boning down anyway? There are plenty of other girls who, I'm sure, would be glad to help you out in that department. Take advantage of college while you can.

Well thats the thing. I loved her and we were really close and I knew I would get that from her someday because we would be with each other. I think if she held it for this long and held it with me she should at least give thought to giving it out. Also enough with the college experience, to me it means immaturity and sowing your oats is just an excuse to party and be a slut or manwhore, pointless to me, fun at times but not for long