Quick background:
Person/ ex friend is female in late 40s was having a serious rough time with finances, foreclosure ect..... I stepped up to the plate to help. Sent out probably around $1,000 in cash, paid car payments (was paid back for this), allowed this person to move in for brief period of time with H and myself. This person would not even wash a dish or clean up while under our roof. (obviously was depressed so I did not push it).
She would listen in on phone calls and answer the phone even tho she was asked not to. She got very involved with conversations with my H friend about him..... H-friend revealed conversations. We ignored thinking that she was very upset over finances, felt alone ect....let it slide because she was having a rough time.
This person got angry when husband and I did not include her in all our activities. We wanted some alone time and went to dinner without inviting her after running errands... not planned just happened. She had a fit and told me that she did not deserve to be treated like this.
stomped out crying the next morning.
I recieved a phone call later stating that she was sorry and just upset.... too late for me to forgive the multiple actions..... I was to the point and rather cold and told her she was no longer welcome in our life or our home...done deal. I was not nasty, just to the point. Wished her well...... the end... I thought?????
Later that week her bf calls and asked us about what has happened and revealed that she had lied to us about many many things.... we are among others this has happened to with her.
Husband then recieves email that I am evil, and basically should dump me ASAP.... H and I laughed like hell over this...... but my god what balls she had to do so! She would just praise him to me over and over telling me how wonderful he is (which 99% of the time he is) so kinda thought she had some odd fixation on him........ who knows....... who cares....... he would not touch her with a 10' pole...but adds to the current problem I think.
So here is the current problem:
She recently emailed me asking for our address....... I ignored it....DELETE.
Then emailed again stating she had a check for me in a bold manner of sorts......... I did reply telling her I never expected repayment and hoped she was well. The end. She emailed again.......
How the hell do you get a person like this outta your life!????? Do I take the damn check to shut her up or is it another way of her trying to meddle in our life? Short of a restraining order what the hell do you do? Obviously ignoring her does not help. There are many more creepy things that have happened with her in the past but may or may not be relevant to current problem. She seems to fixate on things and people and not let go.
I imagine a restraining order may do more harm then good as she is quite good a fabricating lies..would become more angry.... we bought many of her stories....until Bf and other people contacted us telling us to beware.... I consider her dangerous to our business and she could damage us with outright lies..... I feel like I am diffusing a damn bomb.
Which wire do I snip...... the red or blue one?
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