need advice from married people

Caty

Do you think passion is essential to a marriage?

I've been dating someone for three and a half years. We live 3,000 miles apart but have been monogomous and serious throughout the whole time. We have been considering marriage for a long time now. There's one problem. Although we get excited to see each other and feel happy when we visit each other, we don't experience the fast heartbeatings or butterflys that you hear others in love experiencing. We do get nervous around each other and find each other attractive, but it's not a heavy attraction like ones we felt when we were younger or even recently. Do you think this means we are not in love and just really friends who dearly love each other? Are we overanalyzing this?

Sometimes I just feel like we are missing something because we lack intense passion. Other than that our relationship is really amazing and special. Am I looking for something too perfect? What do you think?