[zara]

ok, i got dumped on friday and he has had me on a huge rollercoaster since - but i know that he is listening and absorbing his friends advice and i am guilty of the same.

When we have seen each other or spoken to each other without the input of those friends we have started to work things out, agree to go to counselling and but then we go right back to listening to our friends input and boom - he's dumping me all over again.

What does this mean?

[slubberdegullion]

If he's that erratic and that much influenced by his "friends," then you don't want him in your life anyway.

[zara]

I don't - but now i'm left with the difficult decision over what to do with my life - do i stay here in this small town where i'm likely to run into his friends and precious ex gf who he's obessessed with or do i pack a bag and move?

[westernxer]

Why would you want a guy who's obssessed with his ex?

[Enygmatic]

If you have the means to move to another place then do it. It's always good to get to start all over again in a better place, unless you already have a good life established in your town, If so don't run away from your problems just face them. Noone has the right to make you feel bad, you are the only one with enough power to control your emotions. If someone doesn't value who you are, then maybe that person is not worth your concern. So far based on what you said about your ex it seems to me that he has a borderline personality disorder. Its always hard to break up forever but its better to know its over than being stressed all the time not knowing what is gonna happen, you deserve something better.

[morrigan]

Were you living in this town before you started dating your ex, or did you move there to be closer to him?

If you are really pleased about your work and where you live, don't let your ex or his buddies alter your life. It won't be easy at first, but just go about your regular life as much as you can and ignore your ex and his friends.

If you already were disatisfied about work or residence before the problems with your ex began or if your ex works at the same place, start looking into other employment and places to live. Sometimes a fresh start can help out.