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Old 25th November 2005, 9:19 PM   #1
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The more he doesnt call, the more i want him

Its weird, the longer he doesnt call me or text me the more i like him and all i want is for him to call me. Then I think about him all the time, but when he finally does it sort of bothers me and i dont really want him that much...huh
I think i might just be scared, i get really nervous when he calls. Has anyone else experienced this?
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Old 25th November 2005, 9:22 PM   #2
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who are you talking about ?

< making note to self .... build desire don't call much >
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Old 25th November 2005, 9:44 PM   #3
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yeah jasmine love is weird that way. I know what you're talking about. I didnt have the same experience as you, but went through something simliar when i broke up with my ex.
I used to crave for him to call me and to hear his voice and when he would call, he would do nothing for me because there wasnt anything there anymore.
After a few disappointments i got over LOL

But yes its true when u really want someone and they dont call/pay you attention u do want them more.
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Old 25th November 2005, 11:20 PM   #4
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You always want what you can't have. However, if you get nervous when he calls, that may mean that you really do want him even though you say it bothers you. It's weird the way your physical self sends you signals. I literally start shaking when the guy I want calls me But he doesn't bother me, I love it.
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Old 26th November 2005, 3:35 AM   #5
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I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. About a month ago, this guy that I was involved with a few years ago called me out of the blue. We went out to the bar, had a great night, went back to his place and watched a movie and cuddled all night. Then, I didn't hear from him, and assumed he was actually avoiding me since he didn't return a call I made to him that week. I was a little hurt because of course, I was starting to like him again and was really upset that he never returned either of the two phone calls I left him. Well what do ya know, last night he called and we went out to the bar and out to dinner. However, it was really awkward and I found myself not caring as much anymore. I'm thinking it was just the chase, that I just wanted him to call to call and now that he has, I'm kind of over it. It happens, it's not a bad thing, it just might not be the right thing for you, at least not right now?
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Old 26th November 2005, 3:57 AM   #6
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ha ha i remember this DJ in some Los Angeles radio talk show talking about this 'phenomenon' in his show. This trick is actually being taught on that show, how to keep women wanting for more..

didnt want to promote his show so intentionally not giving away the name & station ;-) but you can pm if you like to know
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Old 26th November 2005, 5:00 AM   #7
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so when is it ok to start calling more or does the distance thing not get old ............. damn the more I think about it the more it makes sense to just get a hooker .... cheaper both emotionaly and financialy
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Old 26th November 2005, 5:10 AM   #8
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so when is it ok to start calling more or does the distance thing not get old ............. damn the more I think about it the more it makes sense to just get a hooker .... cheaper both emotionaly and financialy

ROTFL! Masturbation is cheaper! What bothers me about it is that when I call myself afterwards I ALWAYS get the busy signal. Am I avoiding myself?

This is one of the most confusing posts I have read. You want him to call but when he does you are not interested? What possible chance do we have?
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Old 26th November 2005, 9:15 AM   #9
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how funny...i experience this all the time.....I think that we do not want them, but we want them to want us. When they do not call, we freak that they have moved on....when they do call, we know they want us still and do not have to worry. Funny how the mind works.
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Old 26th November 2005, 10:47 AM   #10
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smile95 is exactly right now that i think of it...im just feeding my ego
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Old 26th November 2005, 11:10 AM   #11
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ha ha i remember this DJ in some Los Angeles radio talk show talking about this 'phenomenon' in his show. This trick is actually being taught on that show, how to keep women wanting for more..

didnt want to promote his show so intentionally not giving away the name & station ;-) but you can pm if you like to know
You referring to Tom Leykis?
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Old 27th November 2005, 3:27 AM   #12
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You referring to Tom Leykis?
you a 101 student? LOL
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Old 27th November 2005, 4:31 AM   #13
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making note to self .... build desire don't call much
Seems to me the age range you're after is somewhat different from the one represented here.
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Old 27th November 2005, 1:07 PM   #14
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you a 101 student? LOL
I love the show... 101 is great defensive tool. I don't use it to get tail, since I don't frequent bars.
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