So how is everytone going to make it through the holidays? My wife just moved out yesterday, I am doing ok with it. This will be my first Thanksgiving in 6 years to be alone. I am spending it with family because they live close, but will end up coming home to a half empty house. Not looking forward to that. She wanted to be out by yesterday so we wouldn't have a bad holiday go figure.
Holidays are the worst times that make us single people feel more lonely. I'm getting used to doing things by myself. But during the holidays, I dread being with my family where everyone is a couple, or have children. I am the only single person in my family. Even the other unmarried people have girlfriends and boyfriends. All I have is "me." So I'm the odd one. And it makes me feel terrible.
They keep asking me why I don't have anyone in my life, and I don't know the answer. It seems they are feeling sorry for me, or making fun of me. Either way, I don't like it. Holidays Suck!
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I am going to try to look at it from a different angle this year. I have a new found respect for myself. So I plan on using it. I am sure I will get the old, "How you holding up" question. My answer is going to be "Great". I finally realize what I deserve from a relationship and I won't settle for less. So if someone asks you how come you don't have someone say it is because I haven't found anyone who deserves me yet. I know sounds kind of narrcissitic but it is the truth. Most of us on this board are kind and loving people and deserve that in return. Don't let anyone get you down, and do something for yourself, however small it maybe. It is going to be tough I know, but I am not going to let anything get me down. I don't deserve to feel worthless. Either do you Cupcake.
I honestly don't know how I'm going to get through this holiday...every moment is a struggle to keep my head up. I never imagined I could feel this lonely...tell me the secret to deal with a heartache duing the holidays. I'm sure my ex had no problem hooking up with someone by now. I envy people who have that ability to hook up so quickly with somebody, they never feel lonely.
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I envy people who have that ability to hook up so quickly with somebody, they never feel lonely.
Really? Do you want to be that shallow? I doubt it. With the good comes the bad. Everyone will survive the holidays and will probably have more $$$ in their bank account since they don't have to buy their lame ex's and their lame ex's families presents.
Really? Do you want to be that shallow? I doubt it. With the good comes the bad. Everyone will survive the holidays and will probably have more $$$ in their bank account since they don't have to buy their lame ex's and their lame ex's families presents.
ahhhhhaaaaaaa...yeeeeah you've got a point..it's just that sometimes the grass is always greener on the other side.
Sorry to hear that !! Maybe she figured if she didn't leave you now she never will .. Seems to me she was waging wars whether to leave that is why she left before the holidays because it can bring people together sometimes or maybe she was wanting to be with another man for the holidays!!! I hate the holidays because i have to spend it with my inlaws and i can't stand to be around them so nosey in my relationship and love to cause conflict between my h and me !!!Good luck hope it gets better!!
ahhhhhaaaaaaa...yeeeeah you've got a point..it's just that sometimes the grass is always greener on the other side.
i just love that saying about the grass!!! BECAUSE no matter who you go to you are going to have problems just like your relationship before so you might as well stay and work through things because the other person will be no different!!!
tell me the secret to deal with a heartache duing the holidays. I'm sure my ex had no problem hooking up with someone by now. I envy people who have that ability to hook up so quickly with somebody, they never feel lonely.
The secret is to be happy with yourself.People like your ex have the ability to just hook up with other people because they need to fill some empty void and it is often forced.These people are not happy with themselves and feel validated by "any' companionship.You probably think he is going to be all "lovey dovey" with someone and this just will not be the case.I would rather be alone than to have to spend the holidays with someone that is not "special" to me.It will take time and I don't know about you but I am a realationship type of person and it wouldn't feel right just to hook up with someone if it wasn't leading somewhere and right now I am not ready for that so either way I will be alone but realise it is by choice.I also feel meeting someone special shouldn't be forced or happen because its needed to not feel lonely.All I have had are long term relationships never really dated a lot of people because the people that came into my life happened by chance and naturally not two lonely people looking for love that seemed forced.I went 3 and a half years of being alone not one date before I met my ex once i met her we dated and found we had chemistry etc..I guess my point is let it happen naturally when you are ready because the time when a relationship is right is when you really don't need anybody to make you happy.
The secret is to be happy with yourself.People like your ex have the ability to just hook up with other people because they need to fill some empty void and it is often forced.These people are not happy with themselves and feel validated by "any' companionship.You probably think he is going to be all "lovey dovey" with someone and this just will not be the case.I would rather be alone than to have to spend the holidays with someone that is not "special" to me.It will take time and I don't know about you but I am a realationship type of person and it wouldn't feel right just to hook up with someone if it wasn't leading somewhere and right now I am not ready for that so either way I will be alone but realise it is by choice.I also feel meeting someone special shouldn't be forced or happen because its needed to not feel lonely.All I have had are long term relationships never really dated a lot of people because the people that came into my life happened by chance and naturally not two lonely people looking for love that seemed forced.I went 3 and a half years of being alone not one date before I met my ex once i met her we dated and found we had chemistry etc..I guess my point is let it happen naturally when you are ready because the time when a relationship is right is when you really don't need anybody to make you happy.
Don't worry about the holidays, just get through it and give yourself a gift.. Do something for yourself this year.
I honestly don't know how I'm going to get through this holiday...every moment is a struggle to keep my head up. I never imagined I could feel this lonely...tell me the secret to deal with a heartache duing the holidays. I'm sure my ex had no problem hooking up with someone by now. I envy people who have that ability to hook up so quickly with somebody, they never feel lonely.
actually they are just masking an inner hurt...they are papering over their feelings..don't envy them. Its not what you think.
regards
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Guess what I get to spend Thanksgiving by myself. My Thanksgiving plans fell through and since my ex broke up with me I dont have him to lean on (for the last few years, I have been going to the ex's to spend Thanksgiving with him and his parents). I have no idea what I am going to do. The only friend i have left out here is going away for Thanksgiving and I dont have anybody else to hang with.
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