[Chriscreed172007]

Well Me n my ex where going out for 9 months we both loved eachother very much! always talking bout having kids all kinds of stuff it was crazy but I liked it all... She broke up with me once 3 months ago because she was confused and wanted me to see other girl or w.e telling me all this stuff that id meet the right girl cause im a such a nice guy... n stuff blah blah blah but a week later cause i told her my feelings that i loved her still n that i wouldnt give up on her and we got back together and she said she promised she'd never hurt me ever again and we were all happy together for while. She was always talking bout she wanted me to be more serious not play around so much n for this girl id do anything n the world to be with! Idc wat u say bout theres other girls out there im not wanting to listen to that but anyways now she broke up with me again! three days ago n i was sad n depressed n still am she was crying 4 days b4 that n ripped up a note she was gonna give me n said she didnt wanna hurt me so dont ask bout the note... anyways i dont ask her .... but she writes to me sayin she wants to take a break to see wats out there n kiss another guy to see if its how she felt when she first kissed me n i was all upset n so she got upset too n that evening at school she says she wants me back so we go back and next day im at work and n the evening she says that she wants to take a break get her grades up and i get upset and she tells me more that she doesnt remember wat it felt like to flirt with another guy cause we been together so long and all this... so i decided to take a break but then she said that i kept pushing her writing notes bout when we was gonna get back together n all this so the day she broke up with me she writes a note n hands to me n lunch line n it says ( chris goodbye for now) jus reading that made me know wat it was n i was sad n didnt want to eat so she grabbed me n didnt want me to not eat she decided not to eat too then n in the note it said stop bugging her and to leave her alone that she doesnt know when or if we will get back together but that she cant help how she feels bout someone else n that love fades away n that is w/ us n my love for her has not faded n i know her love for me couldnt have cause she said she doesnt wanna be with me right now shes confused but she still talking to that other guy idk what to i want to be with her soooo badly id do anything! someone tell me something..............

if she was telling you that you should meet other people then please do me a favor and do this.. i am a girl and when girls say this kind of thing they are telling you that they are done w. relationship ... the more you try to fight it the more its going to hurt because you cant change the way she feels-- the more you beg the more you will look desperate and the more she will push you away.

if you still want to be with this girl then first step is to forgive - take some time off - and focus on yourself - i know that is so hard right now but this may be your only way out - especially if she is telling you that she likes someone else..

the more you focus on yourself the less you will think of her and possibly the more she may return to you...if she notices that you are fine without her and you are not calling her constantly this is what will drive her crazy

[Brittanyjean06]

you have to lay off of her, she is really confused and a confused girl will just hurt you in the long run, i know your feelings your in love and you can be blind at times....but you shouldent let her do that to you...let her go to the other guy

and you move on, you be the stronger and better person your being to nice..if she told you to find another gf,.......well when i was with my babe i couldent picture those words ever coming out of my mouth.....if she can say that to you than i think her feelings are not as strongly for you as they are for her. and there is nothing you can do about that but except it


we all go through tough times. and im sorry you have to deal with someone who is confused

[Brittanyjean06]

and she is not the love of your life, she is the love of the time now and though it may feel like it, thats very rare....

[Chriscreed172007]

I remember she still wears my ring i bought her for early christmas present and n still wears my gold necklace that is mine but she knows its my necklace im thinking if she keeps wearing it maby she really does have feelings for me she just wants have that break for now idk..... ???

[Chriscreed172007]

She always said she couldnt bare to see me with another girl b4 she said that n then sayin when we was on break she promised she would never go as far as we have i still wanna atleast try n wait atleast a month thats all !

[Brittanyjean06]

than wait a month but do it with caution , post your updates and i will continue to give you advice

[Chriscreed172007]

I talked to her on the phone n she said she wanted me to leave her alone for a lil while n that she'd talk to me when shes ready! N i told her that id wait a month to see wat happens n asked her if she thinks about me still n she said sometimes.... I guess im the negative thing n her life??? i wanna be with her ! I wont give up till a month then i guess all i can do is be friends! n hopefully that time i leave her alone dont see her at school or talk to her she will figure out that she does love me ???? I hope so i pray for it i aint a christian or nun but its the most i can do is pray n its only thing ive ever prayed for since i had luekemia !!!!

[Brittanyjean06]

ill pray for you to, but be strong okay? im going through a tough time to........dont tell this girl youll be waiting, you dont want to wait..do the right thing, i know how it feels eh

[Chriscreed172007]

She called me last night telling me that she was giving my necklace back n that we she didnt wanna talk or see me till shes ready and i sadly said ok and then she asked if i remember when i wrote i note that i said i need to get over myself n i said i dont know n she said well i think u need to get over me n i asked if it was over for good n she said chris.... i dont know u cant ask me that she said..
n i then said well promise me u will call when u are ready to talk n she said that she promises. n now i still dont wanna give up i am not blind i know its love that i feel for her n i cant give up because wat happens when i do n she says she does love me n then i dont love her no more it will upset her... n i cant give up on love... idk hopefully me n her were destind to be together n that we will soon or w.e she can break up with me a million times n id still love her!!

[Brittanyjean06]

im sorry your going through this, did you stay home today?.. i did....well there is nothing more you can do, but back off you are being to pushy and thats going to make her go away....let her see what shes loss...okay?

[Kengne]

Originally Posted by Chriscreed172007

She called me last night telling me that she was giving my necklace back n that we she didnt wanna talk or see me till shes ready and i sadly said ok and then she asked if i remember when i wrote i note that i said i need to get over myself n i said i dont know n she said well i think u need to get over me n i asked if it was over for good n she said chris.... i dont know u cant ask me that she said..
n i then said well promise me u will call when u are ready to talk n she said that she promises. n now i still dont wanna give up i am not blind i know its love that i feel for her n i cant give up because wat happens when i do n she says she does love me n then i dont love her no more it will upset her... n i cant give up on love... idk hopefully me n her were destind to be together n that we will soon or w.e she can break up with me a million times n id still love her!!

1st of all - how old are you?
2nd of all - relax, relate & release.
This is NOT the end of the world as you know it.

If she is asking you to leave her alone and NOT to contact her - THEN PLEASE RESPECT HER WISHES and DO SO!

Contacting her when she has SPECIFICALLY asked you NOT to will only push her further away.

THis is not about you 'giving up on love'. It's about you respecting her wishes... and respecting YOURSELF... and letting go of the fact that :1) you CANNOT control how she feels towards you & 2) you CANNOT control what is going to happen in the future !!!!

She may very well come back in 1 mth saying she's sorry and wants to be with you... OR NOT!!!

The point is - there is no point in worrying over events that have yet to happen. You will have to deal with that scenario IF and WHEN it arises. Until then - go on about your life. No one is saying to forget her or give up on love - but hun you DO need to move on! NC will help you objectively re-evaluate the rel'ship. She is not the 'love of your life' as you have not even lived life fully! There could be an even greater love out there - who knows??!

So just respect her wishes... get busy with your life... and take it one day at a time. Trust me - the pain gets easier w time. You WILL survive this and look back one day and think "Wow - I can't believe i ever felt that crazy!"

Good luck!

K.

[Chriscreed172007]

I am 17 and n shes 15 thoe am i stupid but i know i love her i know i dont wanna control her i know i wouldnt want to ever make her do sum she didnt want to do as i told her that b4 but i mean i cant give up on her jus n case n the future we do get backtogether the worlds crazy....

[brittanyjean259]

wow im 17 to, just calm down, i know the pain your going through its hard i know

whats your aim sn? i can talk to you on there sometimes

thanks

[brittanyjean259]

i will take your wise words in to consideration too......it feels like now for me because this is all i new for 3 years.....it feels kinda traumatizing....even if i tell my self, " listen to every ones advice"..." it will get better"....."your so young"......thats when i realize wait a second i cant be feeling better this feels like totalllllllll SH*T ah