Well here's the deal. My fiance and I have been engaged almost a year and date off and on for five years. Eveything was straight until about a month ago. My girl started up her own business and began working 12-15 hour days. She complained that I wasn't helping her and I was too busy doing my own extra activities (Firefighting, coaching HS sport, hunting). She is very jealous of the things I spend all my time on because I stay busy. Well I thought I had started helping her but it obviously wasn't to the extent she needed. We had a huge blow up last sunday. I told her I didn't know she needed me that much. She says she's been telling me but I guess I didn't get it.
Well now she is basically saying she doesn't know if she's willing to deal with me not supporting her with her business and career the rest of her life. She says it's been this way from the begining and I'm not gonna change. Now when I try to do what she needs it pisses her off that I wasn't doing it before. She says it's to little to late. She wants me to have some intuition and foresight.
She is unsure if getting married is worth it, if she can't deal with how I am. She is wondering if its even worth going on with the relationship. I'm not uncertain she isn't cheating on me. She came home at 4am the other night and lied about where she was. I didn't confront her about it.
We live together and we are both depressed and miserable. She is and has been completely emotionally shut down to me for a good month or more. I crave that closness we used to have. How do I get back to where we were? What do I/we need to do? Is time the only thing that will tell? Is this cold feet or a begining to the end? I don't know what to do with myself I'm so miserable.
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