[PF62889]

I am 16 and a junior in high school. In freshman year, this girl came new to our school (its from grades 6-12 if that's important). She is the same age as me (actually 4 months older than me). She was really cool, and I really liked ther. However, she started going out with this guy and they were serious for a year and half, and then they broke up in the summer. She is a pretty good friend, but I really think I'm falling in love with her. I have started hanging out with her a lot, and she seems to be paying more attention to me than most other people, even though a few guys hit on her. One problem is that I don't know if she views me as a friend, or something more.

Also, she does this youth symphony thing with a few of my other friends. The symphony people (from a bunch of different schools who are in this program) all seem to know each other, and I don't know if she is seeing anyone outside our school. I don't want to be embarassed asking her out if she is already going out with someone.

My friends (guys) have noticed me hanging around her, and they keep on telling me to ask her out, but I am not sure if she is seeing someone else. A close friend of hers in the symphony orchestra would probably know about her relationship status, but I think she (the friend) is going to tell the girl I like about me, whether or not she is actually seeing someone. I don't want to ruin our friendship, especially if she already has a boyfriend. I also don't want to rush into asking her out, either. I have never had a girlfriend before, so I am really new to this. I don't exactly know what to do.

Thanks in advance for all your info.

[mrB2006]

Hey,
I understand your dilemma. I was in the same boat (just read my previous posts...) . I was fearful that I would ruin our friendship as well. In reality I should have just made my move. It was a risk I should have taken much earler. She told me that she still wanted to be friends. So, My advice is to try touching her slightly, or to try to hold her hand when you get the chance. If she pulls back, you know where you stand.

Take the chance...Don't fall into where I was. Don't sit on your hands too long. (That is what I did-I tried to strategize every possible outcome. Just do it). Make her aware of your intentions. You will live to regret it. Believe me... If she likes you in 'that' way good. If not you can still be friends. (I know some guys are screaming 'friendzone', but take your chance).

Just some helpful advice from a guy who should have taken a chance....

MrB2006

[Yamaha]

Sometimes you cannot stay friends. If you are not happy with being just friends then you may have to break away in order to pursue another relationship. I agree with mrb2006 though that the longer you want the harder it will be to ask. If she ends your friendship because you showed interest then she really wasn't your friend to start.