[deafblindtoanysignal]

Well the forum code for that smiley sums me up in a word. confused!

I seem to have a problem, I think im really bad at picking girls signals.
You see, Im still at highschool at the moment and I dont know whats going on. Recently I discovered from a friend (mates girlfriend) that there was a conversation amongst nearly all of the girls in my year. Turns out that about 16 of them are really into me! I'm not talking myself up here, honestly. But I have had NO CLUE all year! Most of them have boyfriends and I guess they did'nt have to worry about each other telling me about it.
So yeah, 1/3 of the girls in my year level like me. Once I knew about the conversation it cleared up a bit of my understanding of what had been going on all year, but im unsure about one of the girls in the group. I guess she'll know if she reads this anyway (unlikley hopefully!) so her names Jess.

One of my best mates asked her out at the very start of the year (i wasnt into her then) and currently i THINK that my other best mate likes her, along with the poor mate who was shut down. Now comes the part im really confused about.

Other day I had a party at my house (hehehe parents gone ) and Jess was there. She seems to like to playfight a bit and had me in a from-behind-head-leglock-thing which was the first good sign???? that i picked up. Anyway I had a few to drink and me and Liam were dancing around with our shirts off (lol, and apparently Im a really good dancer) to some good tunes. everyone else but me and jess and liam were there which was good. anyway she just watched us (later i found out i was 'mesmerising' which is a good sign ) for a while then Liam got picked up by his mum, leaving jess and i alone. we sat in these deck chairs on the balcony from 2am to 8am having this massive talk untill i got up and made us pancakes and she left after. yeah, so during this massive talk she told me that she hadnt realised who i was before now, and i told her that there must be something to her to make my mates like her but i hadnt figured out what it was yet. she spilled the beans about the big convo about me and that she thought i was hot. i probly should have told her she was hot too but im hoping that she knows already.

So basically im pretty sure (99%) that she digs me physically and she SEEMS to like me as me, but why wouldnt anything have happened by now? I know both of us want a relationship with someone, maybe she doesnt want one with me? maybe i havent been sending back like i think i have? maybe she doesnt really like me? how can i make something happen? woah, im confused!

So any advice is welcome, especially from the girls out there - maybe you know what shes thinking?

btw: sorry if you read all that only to not care what happens! my bad for wasting a few mins of your life!

[slubberdegullion]

The mating ritual of the human adolescent female involves lots of games, yak yak yak with everyone but the intended, brief physical contact, subterfuge and innuendo, hints both subtle and specific, and loads of makeup.

While mating calls vary from individual to individual, the essential translation appears to be, "Come here, come here, come here, go away, go away, go away" repeated constantly until the intended is out of vocal range.

This leaves the human male in a state of confusion. The adolescent male, awash in hormones and highly influenced by peers, is driven in two mutually exclusive directions. If the male makes an attempt at the female and is rebuffed - and adolescent females take great pleasure in this game - then the male is ostracized by his community. But if the male does not make an attempt at the female, his chances of spreading his genetic code to a future generation are thwarted.

So what is a human adolescent male to do?

That is, of course, dependent on the intended relationship.

If the intent is a quick mating, then the direct approach may be valuable. However, if the intent is an extended relationship, then the successful male will change the rules of the game. A successful male knows that a quality woman will not play games; therefore, the male simply awaits the approach of the female to make his move. Should the female not make her intent clear, the male knows that either she is playing games, or she lacks confidence. An intelligent, non-manipulative female who has confidence will feel no compunction at all about making the first move on the male.

In short, if the male follows this strategy, there is no way he can lose.

Next week, Jim and I will discuss the mating habits of the lowly warthog. Jim will attempt to capture two of them in a net, whilst I lay back with a native girl in a hammock, sipping a Mai Tai.