i have found myself to be in my first ever 'boy' dilemma.
i'll start from the beginning. i am 20 years of age, and have never been in a relationship, mainly because i have never been attracted enough with anyone to want to share a relationship with. and those who i have had strong feelings for in the past are usually always taken.
anywho.. obviously at 20 i feel it is about time that i re-think my criteria for the opposite sex and follow it not as strictly as i have prior. i have my needs, and i think it's about time that i share a kiss with someone. i am very very curious as to what kissing would feel like.
so that is where this boy comes along. i am attracted to this guy. more on a mental level then anything else. but i don't see a future with this guy for more complicated reasons. however i have agreed to go on a date with him in a couple of days. only cause i wanna kiss him. i wanna have my long awaited first kiss.
i know that i agreed to go on a date with him for all the worng reasons, as he is more serious, and hoping for a serious relationship. but.. i just want his kiss, because he knows and everyone else knows (i have my sources) that he can give one helluvva kiss.
so, my question is, should i let him know that i only wanted to go on this date with him because i want his kiss? or should i just keep it quiet? or should i just break it off with him after i get my kiss? or should i kiss him a few times then break it off before it gets too serious? can someone help me out?
so, my question is, should i let him know that i only wanted to go on this date with him because i want his kiss? or should i just keep it quiet? or should i just break it off with him after i get my kiss? or should i kiss him a few times then break it off before it gets too serious? can someone help me out?
Uhmm, I don't know It seems a little odd to me; are you sure you do not like this guy at all; besides for wanting a kiss because everybody says he's good at it? I mean, what if he's not? And how many people has this guy kissed? Sounds like all your friends have already had their tongue in his mouth. Ew. Are you sure you want that? Does he have any kind of STDs? Some diseases can be transmitted with just a kiss.
Anyway, I think it's pretty selfish from you. From what you wrote, he sounds like he cares about you and would like a serious relationship. Do you not mind hurting him? Because, whether you tell him or not; walking away shortly after that will not happen without causing any pain.
It's your decision; but in any case, I wouldn't tell him. That would be plain mean.
What you want to do is share your first kiss with someone you really care about. Same with your first experience of sex. It's how you feel about the person that really makes a kiss special.
My age doesn't matter. Suffice it to say I've done a whole lot more than kiss.
Your first kiss should be special, with someone special to you. Like mine was, when I was seven years old and a boy in my first grade class.
I'm 13.
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however i have agreed to go on a date with him in a couple of days. only cause i wanna kiss him. i wanna have my long awaited first kiss.
If I were in your position, I would probably do the same thing. Sometimes you just have to take action.
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so, my question is, should i let him know that i only wanted to go on this date with him because i want his kiss? or should i just keep it quiet? or should i just break it off with him after i get my kiss? or should i kiss him a few times then break it off before it gets too serious?
Don't let him know about your "true" intentions. If you get your kiss and decide that you don't want to see him anymore, than break it off. If you liked it and him enough to keep up the contact, then see him so more. I don't think you should worry about it until it comes to that.
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ok so i shouldn't tell him that im only innit for the kiss..
just to elaborate.. this guy and i have a deep connection and i do feel something for him, but i just don't feel 'it', you know that really special feeling where you want to spend your whole life with this person. it's just not there. i do want to kiss this guy, as i am attracted to him. i am really looking forward to it.
i just don't feel 'it', you know that really special feeling where you want to spend your whole life with this person.
You know, I didn't feel "it" either the first time I met my husband ... now, 3 years later, we're married and I definitely want to spend the rest of my life with him Now, I'm not saying you should marry the guy; but I get the feeling a lot of people waste their chances with great potential partners because of this "legend" saying that if you ain't feeling it from the start, he's not right enough for you. I think a lot of people move on too fast to other people, just because they don't give it enough time to grow.
H*ll, if you just want to get your first kiss out of the way, kiss your best friend. She'll be better at it than any guy could ever be! Don't use this guy just to get a kiss. This is possibly one of the craziest things I've ever heard. Well, not really, but strange to say the least!
You should probably let him know. Unless he's 'metro' or a 'pansy' he'll probably forget this little meanness you've shown him. Though break his heart by leading him on will ultimately break his spirit.
If you're not interested in him, don't just use him. That's very selfish. I could understand going out with him if you were doing it to give him a chance, but you said that's not why you're doing it.
How would you feel if some guy you really liked was only going out with you so he could get his first kiss (or for sex), and even though he didn't really like you or have any interest in dating you, he wanted to do it because you're hot? Not really very appealing... but if you're going to use other people, you can't justifiably be upset if/when some guy uses you.
I'm 23.
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It seems a little odd to me; are you sure you do not like this guy at all; besides for wanting a kiss because everybody says he's good at it? I mean, what if he's not? And how many people has this guy kissed? 
Now, I'm not saying you should marry the guy; but I get the feeling a lot of people waste their chances with great potential partners because of this "legend" saying that if you ain't feeling it from the start, he's not right enough for you. I think a lot of people move on too fast to other people, just because they don't give it enough time to grow.
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