[TinyMel]

I am writing this to get a bit of advice that is not my own to show my daughter. She is 18 and was in a 2 yr relationship with a guy, he was a bit of a wanderer and cheated bringing their relationship to an end. Well she has now decided she is going to get back at him by sleeping with all of his friends! I keep telling her this will only make her cheap for someone who isnt worth it and in the end they will all sit and laugh (including her ex) but she thinks its the best way to get back , maybe I am out of date and this is the perfect thing to do but in any case we will both read the responses from this forum so please any advice?

Tina

[SMHappyface]

I can't relate as a mother, but I can relate as a daughter and I have been in a relationship where the guy cheated on me. She is hurt and the more you tell her NOT to do something, the more she will probably want to do it. She's 18, and unfortunately, all girls do stupid things. I'm not saying sit back and let her do it, but for the most part there isn't much you can do at this point. My mother during this time listened to me and offered advice, but for the most part let me do what I felt is right. I did get back at my ex by fooling around with a guy he was jealous of, so I know the feeling. Be there for your daughter, offer advice when appropriate, but let her know that no matter how stupid she is, you are there for her. Tell her in small ways how valuable she is. She is most likely doubting her own worth in many ways. She may yell at you and seem like she doesn't care, but she will, trust me.

[TinyMel]

Thanks for your advice - she is dating his best friend and they stopped talking ( the boys that is ) I hope it goes well and you are right I will be here for her either way.

Tina