I went to dinner last night with my wife and noticed she had her wedding ring on her right hand. She said someone told her to do that during a separation(verbal separation only 2 weeks into it). Needless to say it really hurt my feeling. SHe switched it back and said it was no big deal, but what does that mean or am I being over-sensitive. To me its looks like your available!
Those are things that you work out..
I do think it means available if you don't have it on..
She did put it back on her ring finger..
I didn't have my wedding band when my exwife and I seperated..
As I smashed it flat with a 16lb sledge hammer and gave it back to her..( I wanted her to know it wasn't going back on my finger )
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I took mine off the day I realized my husband had been involved in an affair. It shall go back on when it matches my outfit
HAHAHA THAT'S funny!
I heard that before tho. Its not like shes not wearing it at all. I understand your still married, but your separated. When people see that tho....if they know what it means, will know that she's separated and maybe she wants people to see that.
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be glad your wife was still wearing her ring. My wife 1 1/2 weeks after she moved out, took her ring OFF. She has it on her key ring, but she doesn't wear it at all. Of course 2 weeks after she left the man she had been having an affair with moved in with her. At least your wife noticed that it bugged you and at least for you, put it back on, my wife could care less.
An empty wedding-ring finger means unmarried, possibly available, unless s/he is at work & jewelry is not worn for health & safety reasons.
Another point is that separation is not a divorce. The separatees are still legally married, & extra-marital relationships can be problematic, from a legal as well as emotional standpoint.
I walked out on my husband because of the abuse and neglect.
Even though I walked it took me a week to take off my ring. When I did it NEVER went back on..
Hell no.
I wasn't ready to move forward yet but I wasn't going to have a ring on my finger to remind me of a commitment that wasn't there..
My exbf gave me a commitment ring it took me a week to take that off too..
NO ring to me means she doesn't plan to go back. Even if she put it on she might be doing that so as to soften the hurt you feel and also to make less drama for herself with you.. know my ring finger has always felt naked since I have taken off my wedding ring.. I actually had to put on my class ring to remove the naked feeling.
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If I recall correctly, my ex-w had taken off her wedding ring shortly after I caught her & the OM. There was a time lag of several weeks after that before she moved out.
I kept my ring on for about a month after she moved out, & I also put my school ring on the finger to allieviate the "naked" feeling.
I felt a bit let down when I saw my wife with her wedding ring off. Her idea to seperate, I actually noticed it before she said anything to me. Mines off now too.
Its about your head, symbols mean nothing at the end of it.
Wish Id thought about the sledge hammer idea - I like that.
The day I moved out (at her request) for our separation, my XW took her ring off. Never put it back on. Lost track of it completely shortly after that too. Claimed she felt wrong to wear it while she was putting us through that. Riiiiiigggghhhhhtttt.
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Shut up, I'm not done blaming everyone who isn't me.
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