Alright, I just had my heart ripped out of my butt and it's time to start over. This woman was my entire life (ya maybe I should have known better). After a motorcycle accident I had earlier this year, I lost all of my "supposed friends". In any case, she came along and "cared" for me. Now it's all over and she doesn't want to be around me. As worthless as I feel, I still want to go on.
As it stands now, I have no friends. She was the only one I had. How pathetic can it be for a guy to only have one friend and she is now his ex. It doesn't help having Social Anxiety Disorder either. But I guess that's why I'm asking you all.
What am I to do. I know!! Go out and meet people. Easier said than done. I'm a broke, older college student that drives a moped. Being that it's winter makes it even harder. How would you like meeting someone that looks like the Pilsbury Doughboy on a MOPED. Again, life is pathetic.
This is actually a true story. I'm spicing it up because I guess I need to smile a bit right now. I don't know what to do. I have a hard time meeting people period. What do I say.....what do I do?
1. Work out. No excuses about money, time, etc. Throw yourself into it and it will change who you are and how you see yourself.
2. Excel at school. Why are you jerking around on the computer instead of studying? That's your job, and doing it well with increase your confidence, as well as more tangible benefits, i.e. career and financial prospects.
That's it. Control the things you can control, friends and girlfriends will arise when they arise. I'm sure there are other people here who can better advise you on how to Win Friends and Influence People.
i know how you feel and im going through the same exact thing you are. no friends, no family, im just by myself. but you know what, its been a week for me, and you can read in my post, i am down and out, and my bday is tomorrow, and i am gonna spend it pretty much by myself, at school, studying for some stupid midterm. but you know what, im not worried or crying about it anymore, because people make their own life, and if you worry about it, your ex won. dont let her get to you, no matter what the situation is. i know mine is going out, partying it up, living the life.
I can feel what your trying to say. I guess right now, I'm just trying to find the motivation to continue. I don't mean to sound like an idiot. Geez, I'm majoring in nuclear physics and minoring in chemistry. By no means am I dumb. I just can't meet new people. I guess I can become a "pumped up" geek. I dunno. Just really sucks going home alone every night and waking up the same way.
I feel you man. I am right in the same exact sh*t youre going through. But you know what, Ive been there before, and I didnt let it get to me. I thought she was everything to me, but no, talk to people here, read other people's post, their story, mine, youll see youll relate and then itll make you feel better.
for example, today, i started crying thinking how i had everything, and then now I am gonna spend my bday alone. I took action, went to the psy, start rambling on what a b*tch she is for leaving me just before my bday, and i feel much better. I started by posting on here, rambling and rambling, going out of my head, but in the end I needed a quick fix. Counselors at school are free, and there's always some sort of peer hotline that you could call also.
learn how to be good with yourself again, and youll see, girls will come again and a better relationship will come. but the secret is that you also have to make peace with what you just went through, I am slowly, its painful, you want to die at times, but one thing that helps is NC. I begged and cried to her right after she dumped me, and guess what, it just drove her away some more. On the other hand, now that we are 5 days in NC, I feel much better, dont feel the need for her 24/7.
I am like you, I liked my "friends", what our life was about, little couple stuff and all that, but when you start going out again, youll see. i missed out on a lot! i missed my friends cause she didnt like them, i missed being by myself and read a good book because she wanted attention instead of me reading, those little things that make you you.
trust me, the feeling of loneliness will fade away, and if you feel like calling her, vent here before, or be prepared to lose to her again. play her game, ignore her, move on with your life. read my post and see how deep down i am also, im a rollercoaster, i feel great sometimes, sometimes I just feel like im gonna die. but in the end itll all be fine and well forget about our heartaches and not repeat the same mistakes.
Imagine if you started working out. You get toned...you do a complete makeover, hair, clothes, and BAMMMM" All these college girls want to hook up with you..your ex notice your change she want you, but you're having to much fun with all these girls...This could be you with just a little committment to your personal wellbeing and health. Do it for just a month..give it a try. Plus in that month you keep occupied and no think about her. By then end of the month you'll want to continue...and you're a changed man!!!!
Going to the gym is a great thing. It's a hobby, it gets you out of the house, it's something to do. And of course, after a few months of going regularly your muscles get bigger and the girls will notice by the time spring comes around and you're wearing short sleeved shirts.
I can also recommend perhaps taking a martial arts class of some kind. A friend of mine is taking one, and I was surprised at how inexpensive it really is.
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