[SweetVixen07]

This is a dumb question...b/c I pretty much know the answer. But a friend and I drank over the halloween weekend. But I still have a pretty good memory as of what was said (some hurtful things)...but he does not. He was pretty belligerent which made me lash out at him several times that night. I was a little buzzed myself but not to the point where I couldn't remember what happened. Should I hold it against him b/c I still have some hurt feelings about it or just let it go?


p.s. obviously this was my first time drinking...

[ThumbingMyWay]

Originally Posted by SweetVixen07

p.s. obviously this was my first time drinking...

first off alcohol is like truth serim. It makes you do things you wouldnt, but also makes you say things you normally would keep to yourself.

Personally, I would let it slide. BUT I would also worry that your first time drinking led to this type of behaviour. Thread lighty SV7, alcohol can make you do some f'ed up stuff....

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

A drunk mans words is a sober mans thoughts.
Whatever was said, you felt and needed to say it. Whether you remember it or not, he knows you said it and the awkward first meeting afterwards is over b/c you didn't remember when you saw him again!

[Outcast]

Getting drunk is bad for your body and dangerous in terms of what it does to your inhibitions. There is no reason to get drunk every time you go out, although it seems too many people have lost sight of that. It is entirely possible to have one or two drinks over the course of an evening and still have fun. If you're hanging with people whose principal entertainment is going to bars to get drunk, you might rethink the crowd you're with.

[SweetVixen07]

I might have to rethink who I'm with....b/c I not really a drinker anyway...and I don't want everytime I wanna have fun with this particular person we have to drink. It seems as though he passes up non booze activities with me just so he can go bar hopping with his other friends. I think thats what scared me the most...b/c not only that he had went out with a bunch of people the night before...and got totally messed up. I think my friend might have some issues. And actually after we had gotten done of the halloween thing...he wanted to go out and drink some more. All I could say was WoW what the hell is wrong with this guy!

[Sloppy]

Hey Vixen!
First of all, someone who drinks to the point that he/she doesn't remember has a drinking problem. Even if it was the first time or just one time, the signs are there...it means that person cannot control him/herself. Like you said, reconsider who you hang out with.
You might get stuck taking care of your friend each time you go out....oooh, what fun!
Second; I would tell him that he had said some nasty things that you didn't appreciate (no need to go any further) and let him know that you are worried about his drinking. I would also let him know that next time he would do that would also be your last time with him.
Other than that, welcome to the drunk's world! Did you just turn 21?
You can go out, drink, and have fun, but there is no need to over-do it. You would just feel like poo the next morning

[SweetVixen07]

no I'm 19...actually what's weird is that I did everything that you're suppose to do in order to prevent a hang over. I drank plenty of water b/c I was sooo thristy. SO I was pretty energetic the next morning... and felt fine. But I think I really want to talk to him about it....I don't know why but I almost feel like I have to. My brother died from inhalant abuse....so I'm just concerned about my friend and his overall well being. I don't want to break off the friendship but I also don't want to come off as a know-it-all if I express my concern about his drinking habits. What's weird is that both his best friends, who had their girlfriends left us after awhile. At first I couldn't understand it but now I know why..I think they knew how bad he gets so they didn't want to be bothered with him. Like I said before I was a little buzzed but I wasn't totally incoherent and I do remember EVERYTHING that went on that night.

[Sloppy]

Chances are he won't listen to you talking about his drinking. He will get defensive and probably push you away.
All you can do if you care about his friendship is be there for him, wait for shyt to go down and support him. You need to know if he's worth your friendship.

[RecordProducer]

It's possible that he told you what he really meant, but it's also possible that he said things he didn't really mean. Both happen all the time under the influence of alcohol.

If I were you, I would tell him what he said and ask him if he meant it. If he says "no" consider it as real, but keep what he said in a drunken state in the back of your mind.