[steveq]

I met a girl recently and we hit it off right away.
Though I have had only a couple of dates with her I find myself thinking about her all the time, plus she laughs at my jokes At any rate during our last meeting I was telling her about a friend who just recently got married who made it very clear he did not want to be party to anything involving strippers for his bachelor party. It was then when my date informs me that she was a stipper for "one er ah two years"! I didn't take the ball and run with that one for more than a minute, changed the subject and went on with the rest of my date.

Please be mindful that I truly believe that stripping is a legitimate, valid occupation and I am fairly liberal and easy going when it comes to people and their occupations and uniqueness.
However this is about me wanting a serious long term relationship with this girl. At first I envisioned this occupation as exhibitionism on a runway. Then as I mentally explored it further I realized this really ment lap dances with her opening her croch in the face of a stranger (or a regular for that matter) and who knows what else for money. Now I understand that she no longer strips but it turns out that she still teaches stripping technique to girls as a side job. In other words there is still an interest there. To further complicate things this girl has a 4 year degree in business and currently works at a fortune 500 company as a business consultant, owns her own home and seems to have a lot on the ball, meaning she has and did have a lot of professional options besides stripping. I must admit however that I am becoming more hesitant in pursuing this relationship especially after reading horror stories from threads about steering clear of strippers. I keep hearing that they are not into monogamy, their nymphos who would drop you like a bad habit for someone more attractive etc. I personally don't know if that is true at all but obviously I have a lot of reservations about following through with this relationship. I personally don't find stripping appealing and certainly could never seriously date a women who is currently stripping. I know ultimately thats my issue but that is how I feel.

I find my connection with her strong and I would hate to miss out on something potentially wonderful. I ask all in this forum for any advice or guidance you could stear my way especially from strippers past and present or those familiar with that business. Thanks

[slubberdegullion]

People who work in the adult entertainment industry are human beings too, that want love and affection and sex and someone to help with the dishes. In my limited experience with adult entertainers, I have yet to meet one nympho or one clusterf*cker. I have, though, met a LOT of addicts in the industry. Something about it seems to push people in that direction, unfortunately.

The other part of the industry is that it's relatively small; that is, lots of people who work in the industry know each other, either personally or though reputation or contacts. So don't be in the least bit surprised when your friend gets all excited because "Joe" or "Frank" or "Bill" is coming to see her, and you've never heard of these people before. This will happen over and over again.

Don't ask me how I know this, ok?

Getting romantically involved with people in the sex industry is strictly for professionals.

[AlmostMarried77]

from the sounds of things she is very money minded from the point of view of earning enough herself to be independant...she didn't have a problem with her looks or about looking sexy for guys so it was an easy way for her to get a foot halfway up the fniancial ladder.

I would give the relationship a go, but it might be something to raise with her in a few weeks if its still bothering you.

[InLimbo2]

Did ya ever think that stripping paid her way through school and for graduate education - which then allowed her to get that Fortune 500 job, which paid for the house, etc? I've known a few dancers in my life - and they either are desperate for extra money (ie need to feed themselves or kids) or they are students putting themselves through college. Rarely are they interested in DOIN the customers, they are just interested in putting on a good enough act to make the customers THINK they are interested - to separate them from their cash. And don't look down on that - that's their JOB! Every guy that goes into a strip joint knows to bring cash - it's not like they don't know that the chicks will dance for them for money - DUH. So many women say stripping is taking advantage of women, degrading them and using them - I've always said - who's got the upper hand here? the women for the most part!

[westernxer]

Don't make a decision until she gives you a lap dance.