[fiona_4eva]

My mother and i dont get along very well. We fight over the smallest things and we both really hate it. My mum is 1 person to me, 1 person to my friends and 1 person to my dad and family.
for example in the car on the way to my grans place we are fighting but when ever she goes into my grans house she is all nice and kind. My family thinks she is great person but they have never seen the other side of her.

My dad travels a lot, so he is bearly ever home. When he is home my mum is nice and all. But once he is gone i get more then double of my normal house work. I get most of my mums and all of my dads work on top of mine.

She is very strict and over protective. I can only go to certain peoples parties. She has to talk to the person who is holding the parties mum for like an hour until she makes up her mind.

I hate it and wanna find a way of stopping this prob any ides ??

soz bout da length

[Deshanga]

You could try telling her that you'd really like it if she'd trust you a little more. Tell her if she lets you ahve a but more freedom fora little, you'll be really good with it. if she consents, go to only good parties, be home on time, and be extra specially good, and hopefully she will let this freedom continue.

I give my mom the silents treatment when I don't want to argue. Just turn away and don't sya anything to her, if she yells at you still it's totally not your fault. She may stop if she sees that you aren't responding.

[HokeyReligions]

Your mother is concerned and trying to protect you. That's her job. Let her do it. You can't gain her trust unless you can proove that you deserve it. What can you do to show her that you are growing up? Be more responsible. Do things that are required without being told to do them. Keep your grades up. Be honest with her.

Of course she is different with different people. She is a wife, mother, and daughter. She can't 'parent' her husband or make decisions with her parents.

If you are old enoough to be frustrated by this then you are old enough to understand it and to act accordingly.

[lilmoma1973]

I agree with Hokey..We mother's do what we can to protect or childern from making the wrong decisions!!! We are the same way when ss wants to go to someone's house we gotta talk with the parents and get to know them before ss is going over there and especially to some party we keep very close tabs on ss.. My h became a dad at 17 and ss is now 15 and we are scared of him becoming a dad too soon so weare very cautious and we will be the same way with my daughter when she reaches teen age yrs too.. Remember a mother knows best!! I feel that she is being this way fo your sake hang in there !!!