[seranade_u_silly]

Strange question, this... but something I've been wondering about...

I've heard... suppossedly... that women naturally tend to cling to the men who stole their cherries (virginity ).

I have myself never slept with a virgin before (or any women for that matter ) but I have always wondered if it was true because that seems to be a general consensus here where I come from.

So (ladies preferably...) is this stuff true or just an urban legend?

[kitten chick]

That is not an urban legend but it is true for both sexes. Both men and women get attached very quickly to the person that they have their first sexual experience with. Of all the people I know, I haven't heard anything to the contrary.

Is there a reason you're asking this question? A situation you're looking for help with?

[seranade_u_silly]

Yes and no. I like to prepare for whatever may come...

[hooghie]

Growing up- I always thought I would end up with the first person I have sex with. When that guy came- I was sure he was the one. Months later, I dumped him for another guy so I don't think I 'clinged' to him. HE was the one upset.

I once dated a guy I adored who was a virgin. (he had chased me for months before I agreed to date him). A month or so afte we had sex, HE dumped me and I was the one devasted.

I guess it really just depends on the situation and the people involved. If you are going to have sex with a virgin- make sure her first time is special and that you are gentle.

[Treasa]

I broke up with the first guy I had sex with.

Like hooghie, my current boyfriend was a virgin when I met him, and I'd be heartbroken if I lost him.

[whichwayisup]

I think virgin women probably get more attached than a male virgin...

If you plan on having sex with a virgin, treat her well. Don't bang her and dump her! Not saying you are going to do that, but be aware that she will become very attached to you and emotionally, can you handle that?

[Cupcake]

When I finally decided to have sex the first time, I planned to do it with a man whom I trusted, not neccesarrily loved. I met a guy. We got along very well. We discussed it. We had sex. It was "okay." I actually walked away from the situation without looking back. I still admired and respected him as a friend.

But then, he actually came to me and requested more than friendship a few weeks later. Perhaps, his ego had been bruised by the fact that I didn't cling. We dated and it didn't work out after several months. He dumped me for someone else. But I was like, "Fine. I never wanted you anyway."

I'm not a clingy type person. I love freedom and independence. If someone tells me they don't want commitment, I accept it.

[magda]

Yeah, I dumped the guy I "lost it" too, too. He was totally hurt. oops

[seranade_u_silly]

Originally Posted by Cupcake

...he actually came to me and requested more than friendship a few weeks later. Perhaps, his ego had been bruised by the fact that I didn't cling. We dated and it didn't work out after several months. He dumped me for someone else. But I was like, "Fine. I never wanted you anyway."

Some guys are gonna wanna wring my neck for this... but they don't know me so they can shut the **** up .

Anywayz - I've been told that the way to get the girl you want FOR-like-EVER is to steal her cherries. This has nothing to do with why I posted but maybe it has something to do with why your friend was hurt.

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With regards to the topic, it seems inconclusive. From what I can gather, deflowerees don't cling to their deflowerers but sort of expect a close relationship of some sort to... um... blossom.

I'm not one to go around looking for virgins to deprive of innocence - but in my community its very common that as a guy I would end up going out with a virgin. Marriage is usually the only key to their chastity belts but sometimes one thing leads to another (as we all know).

In this circumstance I would like to know what the next scenario would be and from what I can tell, I'm better off devirginising somebody I like alot rather than doing it to somebody I can merely tolerate.

Thanks ladies.

[JayKay]

I dont' know about a woman liking you forever 'cuz you 'stole her cherries'

My first serious BF was my 'first' and afterwards I didn't feel differently for him. I mean, I liked him a lot but I didn't think it was forever and ever. I was 16 and I knew I wanted to date other people in the future. In fact, losing my viriginity just made me more interested in having lots of experiences with other people.

As soon as he left for college, I started dating around. I sent him a letter breaking things off. HE was upset......not me!