[spiritual73]

Never really blogged before but here goes: My sister is like 34 has been on welfare since she was old enough to be on it. Anyways that being said she's been in an abusive relationship for the last 6 years. This guy is an total jerk, and is happy sitting at home not working (because they get more on welly then they would if he worked he says) He has dumped her and run off on her with another woman one time like 5 times now. Leaving us each time to move her because she claimed to want to be done with him so we believed her, moved her only for her to let him back into the home. The ministry is now involved, but really have done squat. Last time he left her he told her that if he ever seen me he'd kill me, as well as my parents. So we moved her again, and now well she's again allowed him back. Now usually we are all in her face about it but emotionally right now I can't do it again for the 5th time. So I talk to her on the phone, but refuse to go there or be back in that situation.......I don't want to be part of the cycle she's created for herself. I got an email from her saying we need to deal with it, get over it, that she's happy and going to do what she wants and so on. Now I know this guy is abusive, and wanted to reply to her email but thought it was best to do as I have been and just stay out of it. I'm tired of the conflict........do I let her reap what she's sowed?? Should I just allow him back into my life with forgiveness even though he's threatened me and abused my nephews, and runs off on a wim?? I'm just at a loss and have nobody to talk to because no one wants to "GET INVOLVED" or hear it. I do have friends but I think they just are at as much of a loss as I am. Any advice at all would be so sooooooooooo apprieciated.
"DRAINED"

[Outcast]

Your sister is unwilling or unable to recognize the danger this man represents. That doesn't mean you should follow her folly. Contact your local domestic violence centre and ask for advice. Ask her if she'd be willing to talk to them too but it may be too late to redeem her.

This man has threatened you and your family. He deserves no chance - nothing is worth putting your family in danger. At worst, he's a violent abuser; at best a nutcase. Either way, he's nobody you want around yourself or your kids.

[spiritual73]

Thanks, we've done all we can with reporting it all, sadly to no avail. He's back, and she's crying to me how much she misses her nephew's and how unfair we all are being and that she doesn't understand how one person can make us all stay away. This man has torn our family apart to the point where we just never speak barely to one another because we are all so emotionally drained. I apprieciate your reply and am greatful to have found a place where I can be heard. "THANKS"