[wanderlust]

I'm having a lot of fun in life these days; juggling school, work (2 part time jobs) and a healthy social life. But the fact that I'm 22 and getting older every day weighs on my mind. I'm not sure if I'm just completely irrational or what, but it bothers me sometimes. I've dated before- I've had three short term boyfriends. Right now I am close with many guys- JUST as friends, since they're all eventually getting arranged marriages. So technically, there's no male void in my life. My best friend is a guy, and I have a fair amount of "best" friends (guys and girls) that I spend most of my time with.

I'm very shy around new people, so that doesnt help. Also, my actions speak differently than my words. When I go out all my attention is on my friends, and we dont really do activities that are conducive to meeting new people...except for clubbing.

Therefore...is it worrisome that I haven't made much of an effort to attract guys to me in any way? Should I get on this right away, before I start aging and looking like a grandma? I figure I will eventually put myself out on the market but I don't think I'll be in the mood for another year or so (too many other things going on). 23 with no prospects in sight?

At what age do women start to go downhill *fast*? Right now I look young for my age but I hope I won't deteriorate much in my twenties.

Put my fears to rest or something .

[Gold Pile]

Your outlook on life is already going downhill.

Some people do well with time, the "too slender" 17 year old is a bombshell from age 35.

The 17 year old bombshell is tubby after age 25

A geeky 17 year old guy grows up to be the hunky Gold Pile

[legrtova]

You will find one when you are ready to. I don't think you are ready to have a serious relationship if you keep basing it on your looks....looks don't last ya know....
I would drop it..have fun till you can.

[bunnzy]

wanderlust, you work on becoming someone fulfilled first, when you become an attractive person, the person you are looking for and fit the best with will gravitate towards you. You are still very young, and have plenty of time to get to know yourself and enjoy your independance.

[wanderlust]

Originally Posted by legrtova

You will find one when you are ready to. I don't think you are ready to have a serious relationship if you keep basing it on your looks....looks don't last ya know....
I would drop it..have fun till you can.

Hmm..well the thing is, I try not to base it on my looks. But sometimes I think that a guy will only want to get to know someone if her outside is to his liking. Therefore, I'd need to hook em somehow. I'm not saying I'd have to be a beauty queen, but I'd have to be physically attractive to them in some way. And I'm not gonna lie, I'd want a guy with a nice-looking face and a trim body (I hope they (the single ones) don't become a scare resource in their mid to late twenties ).

[kitkat826]

It sounds like a lot of it is cultural, since you mentioned that a lot of the guys in your social circle will be getting into arranged marriages soon anyway.

To me, 22 is not old at all and there's no reason to fret over going downhill yet. I think women in their late twenties/early thirties are often the hottest.

The 17 year old bombshell is tubby after age 25

Hehe switch those adjectives around for me...

[Outcast]

You're a long, long way from your dotage yet; no need to panic.

[slubberdegullion]

Originally Posted by bunnzy

wanderlust, you work on becoming someone fulfilled first, when you become an attractive person, the person you are looking for and fit the best with will gravitate towards you. You are still very young, and have plenty of time to get to know yourself and enjoy your independance.

This is probably the best advice I've ever seen on the site. Really.

Twenty-two is hardly over the hill. Take the pressure off yourself. You're gonna be fine.

[bunnzy]

im flattered

[Woggle]

You are only 22. You are only 3 years out of your teen yours so believe me you are not getting old. You don't have to find somebody right now.