LoveShack.org Community Forums

Reload this Page LoveShack.org Community Forums > Breaking Up, Reconciliation & Coping > Coping

Love Letters on Fire...Read or not to read, that is the question...

Register Community Guidelines FAQ Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read

Coping Learning to deal with one's emotions and loss.

Old 12th October 2005, 2:33 PM   #1
legrtova
Former Member
 
legrtova's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: Colorado
Posts: 135
Question Love Letters on Fire...Read or not to read, that is the question...

Hey guys!
So I am slowly moving towards accepting I will not be with the one I love. I have deleted all emails we have exchanged a week ago (almost a 1000), working on re-building my place so it doesn't remind me of him so much...
Today i want to go to the park we used to go to and burn his love-letters. I want to do that as a closure, ensurance that I have accepted not being with him.
I'm feeling a bit down today, missing him terribly, wanting to see him terribly... I'm guessing it will be a sea of tears when it's burning...but my question is...
Has anyone done this? Do you read the letters for one more time or do you just burn it and go? I'm afraid if I read it I will have hope and memories again. I want to have memories, but not the f***** pain anymore!
Would it be a setback, or a step towards moving forward?
I'm confused. Perhaps it's not time to burn it yet?
legrtova is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th October 2005, 2:40 PM   #2
westernxer
Established Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: Los Angeles
Posts: 5,206
Don't burn his letters in a park... you might start another forest fire that Colorado doesn't need.

http://archives.cnn.com/2002/US/06/16/colorado.fires/
westernxer is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th October 2005, 2:45 PM   #3
legrtova
Former Member
 
legrtova's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: Colorado
Posts: 135
Yeah, I remember that.
THey have little picknic area there where we used to hang out all the time...with secure fire pits.
legrtova is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th October 2005, 3:12 PM   #4
civettuolo
Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2005
Posts: 21
I shreded 95% percent of mine .
It was mostly journel pages i had written good and bad,i burned a few but it was time consuming
I have some pictures,a movies stub,a few sentimental pieces i put in a box in the basement ,behind the boxes i never touch.
I thought it would be theraputic to burn as to letting that go -its gone -up in flames!
civettuolo is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12th October 2005, 3:30 PM   #5
SFgirl
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
read and cry

I would say read them and cry like it is the end of the world....from there on itīs going to get better...
  Reply With Quote
Old 12th October 2005, 3:48 PM   #6
off2sea
Established Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2005
Posts: 61
I got rid of mine in two phases- first the one's that didn't really mean anything and then the rest. Right into the dumpster. Did it make me feel better? Not really but I don't regret what I did.
__________________
"I've had good days and bad days
And going half-mad days...

If the phone doesn't ring-
its me..."

-Jimmy Buffett
off2sea is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 13th October 2005, 5:46 PM   #7
legrtova
Former Member
 
legrtova's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: Colorado
Posts: 135
I read it, smiled (yeah, good memories), burnt it and feel GREAT!
I have my life back and loving it
Thanks for your input!
legrtova is offline   Reply With Quote
 

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

 
Forum Jump

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
I asked a girl out.. read if you have read my other posts kjo314 Dating 2 26th January 2006 2:43 PM
hi, please read my question mishy Friendship 11 19th July 2005 2:17 AM
I read my MM's wife's recent letters to him about their relationship! Patiently waiting The Other Man / Woman 120 3rd January 2005 5:13 PM

 

All times are GMT -4. The time now is 3:09 AM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.


Copyright © 1997-2008 LoveShack.org. All Rights Reserved.