I know this sounds like im in elementary school but I'm serious.
I just moved to a new state. New job, new area, its kinda scary.
Lately I've been feeling really depressed. Probably b/c I can't call my friends to go to the mall and try on dresses. I have no friends whatsoever. I got a new job, but New Yorkers are very different people. They look at me like "Why are you being so friendly"
My question is, where can I go to make friends. The people at my job just aren't cutting it. Plus they think I'm a hick b/c I'm from a town in NJ that they've never heard of.
Any suggestions?
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I want to be the one he looks at, then smiles and says to his friends--that's her...
I would concentrate on one person that you respect and admire and try befriending them rather than going for a lot of acquaintances. When you move to a new place it is easier to start small and work your way to a group. They can introduce you to more people and then your on your way.
hey IHNFC ......i thought you were moving to florida
anyway just be you, join some club or something go to the local hang out place and make some friends there....
Check out the local listings for clubs and associations and see if there's one that interests you. A lot of cities have newcomers clubs - try the phone book and see if one is listed. Does the bf have sisters or other females that he associates with who might provide introductions to their activities, clubs, etc?
I don't now about this one! You can join all the clubs you want and try to befriend all the people you meet. That still doesn't gaurantee friendship. It's difficult to find kind, trustworthy people.
I work around lots of people everyday. Celebrities, millionairs, ect. I even meet a lot of people in school. Still, I don't have any friends. Everyone I know are associates. I go to clubs and events with them. But when I need a shoulder to cry on, or simply someone to talk to, nobody is there. It's just not like that.
I've tried to be a friend, no matter how people treat me. I'm honest and trustworthy. Most people think I'm nice and honorable. But still, there is something I obviously lack in the friendship department. I've even tried buying people expensive gifts. At the end of the day, those people are only around me because of the financial gain. But for now, it's better than being alone. So I guess, you can buy friendship. That works. ..TEMPORARILY.
Learn to live in New York. Before you realize you will love it.
People get used to big cities easily. The people seem unfriendly because you're different. Act like them, but approach them and try to talk to them. If you never approach them, they will never talk to you, but if you talk to them they will have to talk to you.
Isn't it a challenge to be a BC girl? You'll love it eventually. It takes time to get used to any change. At least this is for the better, right?
I know this sounds like im in elementary school but I'm serious.
I just moved to a new state. New job, new area, its kinda scary.
Lately I've been feeling really depressed. Probably b/c I can't call my friends to go to the mall and try on dresses. I have no friends whatsoever. I got a new job, but New Yorkers are very different people. They look at me like "Why are you being so friendly"
My question is, where can I go to make friends. The people at my job just aren't cutting it. Plus they think I'm a hick b/c I'm from a town in NJ that they've never heard of.
Any suggestions?
Don't stop being you! That is a good quality you have, being friendly!
Join a gym for fun, meet some women there, or even take a course, do a hobby - Something that will make you meet people.
It isn't easy to start over, give it some time. Hang in there!
Ok so I'm making grounds with the people I work with. I thought that they didn't like me b/c i was a hick from a small jersey town. but they warmed up and I went out with someone and we got a few drinks. Things went well and she invited me to a party with her next week with all the people we work with. So I'm getting in slowly. I was looking for instant gratification and I wasn't getting it. But all seems to be going well and I'm adjusting just fine. Thanx for the tip guys!
Hey there, can I hook you up with one of my male friends? He just moved to NY, he's single, and he's having the hardest time EVER finding a nice girlfriend lol
Hey there, can I hook you up with one of my male friends? He just moved to NY, he's single, and he's having the hardest time EVER finding a nice girlfriend lol
Sorry darlin, I moved to be closer to my BF.....He lived in NY and I lived in NJ. So I moved to NY to be with him. We moved in together.
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