Would you stay or go?

Raja22 · 12th October 2005, 12:18 AM

To all the married women out there. If your husband had a long time girlfriend when he met you (over five years) and he did not stop seeing her the whole time that you dated. 1. Would you still have married him? 2. After you married him and he continued to see her what would you do? You know that he continues to have an affair with this woman and you know that he loves her more than you. He then has a child with the other woman. You guys also have a child. He is the primary support to your household. Would you stay or leave. He continues to not only cheat with her but with other women as well. Just want some advice here! Let's keep in mind that you have a BS in Psychology and you are i the masters program for social work due to graduate in about 6 months. What would you do?

Art_Critic · 12th October 2005, 12:21 AM

It sounds to me that he has a BS in marriage

He needs to go ........

xXSURFAGEXx · 12th October 2005, 12:27 AM

I agree,well not until YOU find another guy that is.

gilbert · 12th October 2005, 12:33 AM

Art Critic, you are to funny!

I would not have married him at the time if he was dating another woman. I also don't understand why he would propose to you if he was dating another woman, especially someone he had a relationship with for over 5 years.

I want to be with a man who wants only me. I have to be every thing to him.

I am sorry though that you feel you have to stay with this guy because of support. Do you have family nearby that could help with your child while you work. There are alot of working single mothers out there who do just fine. My sister is one, she has 3 childrenand was single for 12 years. She recently got married to a very nice man. They are in love. It can happen to you to. Fine a man who loves YOU.

YOU ARE WORTH IT!

Maria46 · 12th October 2005, 1:06 AM

1. I would never have married him if he was dating someone else.

2. Ok..so then you marry him and he still seeing her. Then you dump him like the dog he is.

3. Then you have a child with him, while he is not only seeing her but other women as well. See answer #2.

And this is love??

When you dump the dog, he can still support your child. Why live in a loveless relationship that is full of lies and deceit?

You sound like you have no self esteem or self worth.

You are better than that. You deserve to be treated better than that. You need to realize it and find someone who treats you with the respect all human beings deserve.

Take care

Tristram · 12th October 2005, 1:09 PM

I agree, get rid of him. He has obviously shown he has no intention of changing his ways and being the husband he should be. Get as much documentation of his affair as possible and take him to the cleaners. Maybe, he will wise up to the fact that it is wrong to treat people that way. After his pocket book is hurt and he lives in a empty house for awhile that is. And you can find someone who will be there only for you and will love you like he should. They are out there, you can find one i'm sure.

harleygirl92156 · 13th October 2005, 12:15 AM

This is a no brainer!!!

LucreziaBorgia · 13th October 2005, 8:49 AM

Unless you can accept that he is a cakeman who will never change his ways, you will want to leave.

Get your Masters. Get a stable good paying job, if you don't have one already - and if you do have one talk to HR about a raise/promotion once you get your Masters. Then, once your feet are under you - hire a lawyer and file for divorce, child support and alimony and get yourself out of this.