After my ex asked for a break I decided to break up with her because i lost trust and respect. She always indicated she thought we would get married and still thinks we will always be together at some point but not now...I broke up with her and she was still saying i love you etc...the following night i recieved a text where she says she is very sad and guilty and wants to talk to me so much...
is she just playing childish games? anyone dealt with the person asking for a break suddenly being sad when its given to them?
It's possible that she does really regret the break-up. If so, she'll let you know. But it's also possible that she has an issue about being on the receiving end of a break-up, instead of the one instigating it (I know this from personal experience), and that she'll try to woo you back just so she can rip your heart out of your chest to assuage her damaged pride.
I'm in your shoes right now. we broke up becasue HE wanted it and then called all the time looking for the emotional support he needed to be ok being broken up.
so what about US?
support is a benefit of being in a relationship and they won't realize they've lost us until they, well, LOSE us.
I changed my phone number so he can't call. I changed my email address ,too. I thought about calling and telling him before hand but decided against it when I looked on his myspace profile and saw he had changed his status to "single" and changed his picture.
it hurts like hell but you have to just try to move on in some way.
I am no better off than you but everyone tells me it gets better. NC is the ONLY choice here. do not talk to her right now.
she is just calling to make sure her options are still open, that's what my ex was doing, anyway.
she sounds indesisive so it makes sence that she wants to keep you in her pocket just in case.
good luck. I'll say a little prayer for you.
My ex wanted a break last month. He became more moody and withdrawn as the days went by. I was soo hurt and decided to move out. I kept thinking that I shouldn't allow him to treat me with such disrespect.
We haven't talked personally, but he did email me a couple of weeks ago apologizing for putting me through this, he needs time to be alone, and that once he is able to see things clearly, he wants to talk and sort it out. I have been crying everyday and can't believe how fast our relationship changed. I became close with his family and they can't believe what he did. Apparently he hasn't talked about our relationship with anyone. My friend believes that he knows people will tell him that he is stupid for pushing me away. That he won't get their support. His sisters told me that he has been behaving like a jerk and that he is isolating himself.
I was hurt when he changed his hi5 profile to "single" and took every reference of me out of it. He is the one who wanted time alone, and now it is like I was disposable. It hurts sooo much. But I haven't made any sort of contact with him since I left. Only an email saying that I will be picking up the rest of my things at a certain time (which was last week). I am still in that shock/disbelief stage.
I can't wait till the shock stage wears off. There are times when I get angry for being pushed away. Especially after all the times I have been supportive with him.
Don't let your gf play those games with you. It's best not to reply to any sort of msg from her. Let them stew for awhile.
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