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Old 3rd October 2005, 9:28 AM   #1
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I was with my x about a year. He didn't like me looking like a girl dressing nicely , just planly being a gal. I don't believe that's the real reason but thats what he said. Anyways the way we broke up /stopped seeing eachother Gosh how cold . Well i had been giving him space cause if yu were me youd would have wanted to give him space to resolve whateve issues we had. He would never say what was wrong to my face. He'd never have the digiity /respect to say what he didn't like about me to my face he alwas did i tover the phone. We are both in our mid-twenties.

So, the last time we had talked i siad you know what since youre studying I don't want to interrupt you so you call me when its a good time to do so. Thats what i said. I didn't pick up the phone it took him a month to call me. Well we were suppose to go out for a weekend, he said he couldn't afford it. I really wanted to go I even said I'd pay , long story short it didn't happy.So, i found an envelope in my maibox I said i didn't need your money but thanks it for giving me back my share you really shouldn't have, It was even 5 min he called . He said why haven't you calledme? my response" cause I didn't want to talk to you". He asked so, you have a new boyfriend? I said if you had that little faith in what in me why did you bother to call me tonight. He said he did miss me. See, thats what went wrong for us he stopped appearing that he cared . It's actions speak louder than words. I honestly felt he didn't want me anymore. I always frustarted him since i treid giving a hand in helping him out to make things that much easier for him. He never appeared to appreciate my assistance.
He admitted he missed me and asked me what I wanted. I said i don't know what I want but overall I deserve and want to be happy. He asked me if i wanted to go to a movie . I said is this a date or not cause I personally don't believe that you can be friends with an x I really don't. He sid he would call me nad he hasn't. I can't understand him .
I called him last week and just said he what are you up too he was going his service drill over the weekend. I wished him good luck and he actually said thank you. I said "what do you want?" He replied I don't know but I'll call you and we'll plan on something to do.

He said i sounded happier and to be honest I am . See, before "joe" I had never been in a genuine relatiosnhsip. Joe even said ... i wanted to marry you and I know I've changed but I saw us having a future. I told him I did too. But I don't know what to do he's actions do not say what he literally says . None of my firends like how he treated me .My parents don't either. My x before him said I should find somene else. I just don't know how to deal with him calling me. I would think it means he does miss me and wants to work things out , but with him saying I don't know, man why did he bother to give me a ring. Does that make sense?
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