[13lue13ug18]

I got married last year to a long time accqaintance that became more, everything is going good. But I recently found a long lost friend of mine that is the opposite sex. We had the most platonic friendship I've ever had with a guy, back then things were so good between us I did'nt know he liked me or anything. All the while we had a great connection...and one day it hit me...that I was falling for him as well. But he ended up with another girl for the next 6 years, and just a few days ago I found him. We caught up on the past...everything...about liking eachother...he wouldn't have been with her that long..blah blah...then the feelings just came back...we had soo much more incommon now then ever. But I'm married...and I feel I am only with my husband for safety reasons...

Can someone give some insites?

[whichwayisup]

Are you sure that this guy just didn't stir up old feelings? DO you love your husband? Is he a good person? Seems you may have married too young and settled.

Is the other guy married too or have that girlfriend?

You need to take a step back and decide what you want to do. If you don't love your husband, then end the marriage. It's not fair for him, or you to stay together if you're unhappy. Atleast then he can get over you and find someone else who will love him the way he deserves.

Were you happy with your husband before the other guy showed up?

I suggest going to marriage counselling and definately tell your husband how you feel. He deserves to know.

[westernxer]

It's just nostalgia. If you saw this guy everyday, you'd be platonic all over again. The sudden encounter made you excited, that's all.

Or else, you're just not ready for marriage. It happens.

[13lue13ug18]

I suppose I asked a question that I already knew the answer to...and I do love husband...but old feelings did come back. I know what I'm doing...it's just what is lost I can't get back that makes me a little sad.

The other guy isn't married nor has a g/f...and he doesn't want to get in the way of anything...

[westernxer]

Then leave him be and focus on your husband.

[glittergurl]

I agree, it's not worth ruining your marriage. Just force yourself to get over it. I think we all have our doubts and crushes once in a while, and it may seem as if we're just staying married because it gives a strong feeling of safety. But it's much more than that (well, in most cases).

What if your husband walked up to you today and told you he doesn't know if he wants to stay with you because he has no feelings for you and fell for a very good friend of his instead?