[jms]

Its been like 14 days now since i've broken up with my g/f and every once in a while i get this urge to check her AIM profile... I even deleted her from my buddy list - but still. I can't forget the screen name. I don't know why I keep doing it, I know one day its going to say "I love <insert guys name here>" and its just going to mess with me big time.

Any advice?

[jhurtinct]

You're not giong to stop looking until your ready or it really tears you up to see it, you have to not want to be hurt anymore in order to stop. Why don't you try staying signed off for awhile or picking up a new game on zone or something to keep you otherwise occupied while online. Stay strong and stay away from AIM when your ready

[hart-kaputt]

believe me dude, if you don't make a clean break from checking up on her then you will get worse and worse and more creepy. it consumes you where you think of new ways and new tactics to get info. you might get as crazy as i did and look up spy-gear on the internet, but seriously don't. i've learned people deal with heart-ache and pain in their own ways, so if your ex sounds a little crazy in the IM scence or you see her hanging over some guy, try to think that she is running away from her problems or she was born a trash bag hoochie. it's easier to hate, but it's very difficult to understand why behaviors exists.

if you can't make a clean break on your own strength, then think of the consequences if you get caught. we can't be slick forever, we start to get lazy, believe me.

[konfuzd]

I can totally identify what you're going through. I went through this after leaving a long term relationship as well. While dating my ex, he had given me his e-mail passwords, and failed to change them after we broke up. I was so upset after our break up that I went into his e-mail account ~~~bad idea~~~, and found out that he had joined an online dating service only days after our break-up..... I was crushed... anyways, moral of story.... sometimes it's better to sit back and imagine that your ex is taking the break up as badly as you are, than to know the truth that they have moved on before you have....

Good luck!