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is friendship possible?
Hey everyone,
My girlfriend of 4 years broke it off a little over a month ago, but we still remained quite close. During the moving out process we spent a lot of time together, and remained physical. It started to tear me apart inside because I was hoping for us to get back together - but she is too confused at the moment...about a lot of things. She is a Christian and she wants to focus on reconnecting with her faith - which is understandable. I'd rather get dumped for something like that than another guy anyday. BUT - since she still loves me and I still love her, our feelings were leading to things that go against the values she wants to start living by (no sex etc.) So - due to the fact that neither of us were moving on and the actual breakup wasn't happening, she decided to go NC with me. I've broken it a few times because I'm worried that we'll never have a friendship again - and that is ALL I want at this point. If she doesn't come back to me romantically, I still want a friendship because she is very important to me and I just like her company. I asked her if she wants to be friends and she says that when she has grieved and healed, she will call and see where I'm at, and if I have moved forward as well, we will be friends. Do you think that she is telling me what I want to hear or that she actually does want to be friends? She has also told me on numerous occasions that she is optimistic about the possibility of a romantic relationship once we have sorted out our personal issues...but also to treat this breakup as though it's permanent or else we'll never move forward. I think she is being genuine, but my insecure side is feeling like this girl just wants me out of her life all together...even as friends.
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