[HeartSprinkles]

Advice and insight needed from every angle please!!!

Almost a year ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 2.5 years. I didn't even shed a tear b/c my pain was overcome with a great satisfaction that we could no longer hurt eachother. I did it over the phone. (something i regret, but I couldn't have looked at his face and do it.)

We had some serious issues, i lied a ton (never cheated or even thought about doing it) but i lied about meaningless stuff (to me at least), and he made me feel hated every day for lying or whatever. He was very depressed with severe family issues, and Obessive Compulsive Disorder, but I helped get him back to school and get him back in touch with his father so he could pursue a movie career.

So, A few weeks went by and I called him to say happy b-day and he said thanks, and that was it. 2.5 years of my life with someone, and just poof...it's gone. Honestly, I have not looked back since. I have been single for a year (dating but not steady) and I feel great. I am focused on school and getting my future inline and on track.

Now, I gave in to the crowd and joined MYSPACE. I was just looking people up and I typed in his name, and there he was. I guess I didn't realize the magnitude of MYSPACE.

So I read his profile and he has moved on, as expected, but now he is friends with a couple of girls and guys he once said horrible terrible things about. He even dumped one of the girls as a friend to be with me, because she didn't like me and him together. He then proceeds to say that he doesn't want to go back to school and finish his last four classes for whatever reason, and he smokes on top of it. He hated smokers, and he always said that people who smoked were dirty and skanky. He also goes to bars and other places he always hated going.

I believed him to be a reasonably mature man of 27 yrs of age, but all of this strikes me as so wrong.

I guess what my question is...why do you think this is bothering me? Why am I slightly obsessing over it? Why? Why? Has this ever happened to you?

[Jas]

MYSPACE is evil! Get out while you can!

My fiancé has a profile and I take everything so seriously. He hardly ever goes on except to approve some comment or friend request - but what's the point? It's always some girl he knows from the "scene" (he used to be a dj and promoter) but it always gets my gears turning. To top it off, he's got his ex as a friend, so lucky me - I got to put a face with the name. That's something I could've done without. I hate it, but I have no reason not to trust him, so I won't insist he delete it.

For you, I think it is similar. When I come across old pals on Myspace, I look to see what they're up to and reminisce and it kind of gets me in a slump. Anything from "I'm not as pretty as that girl, I don't have such a wild social life as this girl" blah blah blah. You get the idea. Run while you can, before it becomes an obsession!

[HeartSprinkles]

You are so totally right...it will become a obsession...it is like an addiction...