[sanne]

Damn, just when I thought things were getting much better for me I hit a huge snag. These past few days I've had this urge to call or make contact with my ex. Not to say anything important, just to say hi and catchup. I know I can't and shouldn't make that call, but it's extremely disappointing that I'm getting those urges again. I'm worried I might just cave in and end up contacting her. I didn't bring my phone into work today because I knew I would be tempted to send a text message or call.

Fight the urge! Stay strong. Don't let him have the power. Empower yourself to have the self respect that you want. It is up to you to take control over yourself. Think other thoughts. Take pride in the fact that you can do it and knowing the he is waiting for you to call. You have the power to make this relationship under your terms. I know you can do it. Don't give in. Have some self control and you will feel better. You are strong and can overcome the urges.

[LucreziaBorgia]

Those urges don't leave easily. The fact that you have them lets you know your heart is still too wrapped up in her to be able to objectively contact her. Until you are over any and all 'urges' I wouldn't suggest making that call. Think of how far you've come. Go back and read your posts from the beginning. You really want to go back to that dark place again?

Give yourself some more time, Sanne. It isn't easy, but if you are in doubt and feel that urge, go back and re-read that raw pain you spilt out here.

[off2sea]

Sanne,
Leaving your phone at home or just shutting it off is the way to go. Yesterday I received a Happy Birthday text after 10 months of NC. It was incredibly hard not to call so I did text back but, of course, then got no more responses. Ignore your urges, go out for a walk and keep away from your phone until it passes. Its just not worth it. Good luck!

[sanne]

thanks guys, and like I said before it was just an urge. even though we've been broken up for months, we've still been in contact until about a month ago or so. so for me, the breakup has actually started recently almost. i just can't wait for school to start so i can have other things to occupy my mind.

[Helmet]

There's no question, the healing doesn't really begin until you break all contact. Don't call under any circumstance, or you'll just set yourself back. Forget. Forget. Forget. Move on. Find someone new!

[pippen_2k]

Yeah dont do it Sanne!

One month still aint that long dude.

I aint heard or attempted to contact my ex in like 3 months now, and I can hounestly say that im very calm and happy these days.

Im at the stage now where im trying to avoid her at all costs, cause I know what the repercusions will be if I see her with someone else or even talk to her.

Its a good feeling to be at ease again and able to relax without her haunting my mind 24/7...couple more months dude you will be here..just stick with it.

I still kinda miss her sometimes, but urges to call her = NOPE

[At Peace]

Geez Sanne,
I was this close to breaking down and contacting the ex. Its like today I was overcome by the extreme urge to contact the person who has hurt me the most. I don't know what I thought would change. I actually pictured in my mind my ex would be happy to hear from me. Crazy huh? Then I logged on and saw your thread and all the replies. I am convinced not to go back there and throw what efforts I've made to recover down the drain.

[Sadlygone]

I am now on full NC. I am blessed that we are all here able to provide the support during our difficult times. I truly wish that everyone who is suffering from heart break will eventually find their peace. I hope that there will be a day that I can find that peace.

[off2sea]

So I just screwed up and dialed the number after 10 months! Of course I quickly hung up but it will show up on her caller ID. All this accomplished was making me feel weak, so please all, shut your phone off when the urge is irresistable.