[cm12345]

Hello All,

Ive been with my gf for about 2 months now, and everything is going great. Weve been in that whole "honeymoon" phase when your inseparatble but I guess Im a lil worried that shes sort of no longer in that phase and kinda is getting sick of me. She hasnt outright said this, but its just a feeling I get. Is there anything I should do as far as maybe distancing myself a lil bit to get her to miss me? Any help would be great, thanks!

[curiousnycgirl]

Well first of all - I always think everyone should maintain their own life regardless of who they are dating, or not dating. There are so many benefits to this, I can't name them all - just trust me on this! It is important to have your own life and be your own person!

Secondly I am not certain what you have described requires distance - sounds like you guys are just doing the same old same old all the time. Perhaps plan a real date - something new and fun? After only 2 months, the spark should still be there - have you allowed things to get boring?

Finally I am a FIRM believe in the need for "intermittency" especially at the very start of a relationship. I would never start a relationship with more than one date a week - and I would keep that going for months. Perhaps in between the dates the communication becomes more frequent - but this concept of spending every waking hour with someone just makes no sense to me.

I guess my only recommendation here is in the second paragraph - the rest of my post is really just general rules for life.