[betterwife]

The other week my husband said that our sex is getting boring because we do it in the same position all the time. Eventhough I think that sex is not that important anymore because I have other things to accomplish in life. But I think a longest he and I get a nut it should be ok. Dog that's the whole part I think. The teasing thing has gotten old to me besides for special occasion. What in the world is wrong with my sex life.

[JadeStar]

Sounds like you all have gotten stuck in a comfortable rut with sex. Have you suggested trying different things? Maybe a new position? How about role playing, or maybe buy a toy. Whenever something gets boring, then its time to try different things together. Find out what your husband likes, maybe suggest a few of these things to him. Make it fun for each other, so it doesn't seem like its such a chore for you all.



Jade

[Merin]

IMO Having a healthy sexual relationship with your SO is very important regardless of what else you want/need to accomplish...

For me having a great sexual connection is a part of being healthy and happy which in turn helps me in accomplishing other things in my life... it is a sense of well being.

As Jade suggested I would explore other ideas to keep the sexual chemistry and connection hot and exciting.

[megabit15]

Originally Posted by Merin

IMO Having a healthy sexual relationship with your SO is very important regardless of what else you want/need to accomplish...

For me having a great sexual connection is a part of being healthy and happy which in turn helps me in accomplishing other things in my life... it is a sense of well being.

As Jade suggested I would explore other ideas to keep the sexual chemistry and connection hot and exciting.

I so agree with this statement! While sex is not everything to a woman, it is highly important to a man. In general, men marry to get regular sex and women marry to get security. (Of course there are other things which contribute, this is generic statement here)

You say the "teasing" is old now except for special occasion. This is probably what your husband misses. Maybe someone at work is flirting with him and why he is realizing that he needs to spice things up with you. You are lucky he is addressing the situation with you instead of cheating - which a lot of men will do. He is giving you a heads up here, don't take the security you have for granted. Besides, you'll end up having a lot of fun too!

How about some adult games - areyougame.com has some interesting selections under "romantic" category. And of course there is always toys, videos, etc.

[megabit15]

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t70344/

Betterwife,
I read your other post - it seems there is much more going on in your marriage than this thread indicates. You mentioned you were separated and that he was with his assistant while this separation ocurred. Was his fooling around with his clients also while you were separated??

Why did you and your husband reconcile? Do you still find your husband sexy or are you there out of convenience?

You may want to ask yourself what kind of guy he is...has he been cheating while you were together, or did all of this occur during your separation?

Best Wishes to you!

[Weird]

I dont understand how the position stuff makes sex more exciting or whatever. When I was having it changing positions didnt make it oh so more exciting.

Then again, I am not a huge sex freak and found it to be kinda boring since it involves the same repetitive motion of penis into the vagina so I wasnt into spending tons of time doing it. There are far more better things I'd rather be doing with my time than humping. Guess I'm diff than most.

[portableversion]

Too bad there weren't more men like you, Weird.

I also think the same repetitive act (penis inserted into some hole) gets boring if done too often.

[Brandi Renee]

Are you really serious about you woudl rather be doing things than humping?

Really serious????


Are you married????? Does your wifre or girlfrined agree????

Are you gay maybe? Dont take offense ,its just that I have a future husband who feels the same way and I dont know if i can deal with that.

[Horse]

Sex can get boring if there is no passion. If you are concentrating on the body parts and mechanics. If you are thinking about other things you should be doing.

But if there is passion. If you are thinking about the bond with the other person. If you enjoy making them feel good, exploring their body and the way they touch you.

Changing positions changes the way things feel. It changes the tempo. It changes the view. It gives you the opportunity to try something new.

Sounds good to me.