[ButtonPusher]

I need some advice on how to deal with this. Im at university and have a post grad student taking one of my tutorials. She's not actually a member of staff, just working casually as a tutor. I think I might be a similar age to her, give or take a year. And I think she's hot.

I broke up with my ex over 6 months ago and want to get back on the horse so to speak, but have become a little more uncertain about flirting since then. I use to be able to just walk up to a chick and say whatever I wanted to say, probably to the point of being cocky lol. But after my last relationship I got a different perspective and now I'm worried that if I flirt with this post grad chick she will get uncomfortable and wish I would piss off. So should I just ask her out straight up, or should I talk/flirt a bit first? I seem to be really terrible these days with reading girls body language/messages about how they feel about me. Ewwwk, I need some advice, quick.

[Jayhawks]

Your confidence is shot. To rebuild confidence I would recommend going after a girl who you figure will like your interest at this time. It will give you a real shot in the arm. After you realize that girls are not the enemy and you become comfortable around them again then you can go back to women you consider hot ( and the ones that will hurt you if they say no ). It might seem mean to use these other girls but you need to think about you and what will get your confidence back now. Just don't go after a friend as that will end your friendship.

Peace...

[kscholze]

I say go after it. Just because she is hot doesn't mean she is untouchable. I have gone up to girls I didn't think i would have a chance with and found out that they were thinking the same thing...

[ButtonPusher]

Hmm thanks for your responses first of all, but none of you have answered my question. HOW should I go about this?? Should I ask straight out if she wants to go out with me? Or should I chat with her for a bit for 1 or 2 weeks and then ask?
I know its partly to do with my confidence having been damaged, but its also because this is not in a bar/nightclub situation, where I'd quite easily flirt with a girl and take any kind of rejection easily. But this is in a university, and I don't want to be accused of sexual harrassment just because I talk to her on a personal level. Sounds rediculous I know, but who knows these days.