[Rebounding]

I met my current husband at work, right after he met me, he started flirting and we went into romance right away. He told me he broke up with his ex 2 months ago, and he also told me he has a 3 year old girl from ex wife, and an infant from ex girlfriend. I totally believed him and trusted whatever he told me. And he kept telling me how much he loves me, and want to have two more kids with me, etc.

Then we married two months later after we met. Then one day his ex-girlfriend called me and told me she moved out the day before I moved into his house. And she and him started as a office affair and blah, blah. And I finally believed what she told me and believe that was fact. and I was shocked. I was a reboundee.

Now we already married, and he begged and begged and I started to have trust issue with him, but he is a goodlooking guy and we had good intimacy life, and I decided to make it work. Then he started acting weird, and I felt he tried to work out with his ex girlfriend, and I caught him couple times lying.

But he begged and begged, now I am pregnant with his kid. we have financial problems, and trust issues. We have to pay 3 childsuport now (he has 2 kids, I have one from previous relationship).

I just wonder if the marriage wil last? what kind of people I am to stay with him? and what kind of guy he is?

[sundrop]

Originally Posted by Rebounding

I just wonder if the marriage wil last? what kind of people I am to stay with him? and what kind of guy he is?

Those are only questions you can answer.
The marriage will only last as long as you work at it. Once you give up, it's over. And only you know how much abuse you are willing to take from him. And personally I can't make a judgement as to what kind of person his is based on your post, only you know that in your heart.

Wishing you the best.

[Art_Critic]

Boy you have a full plate right now..

Do you still work ?
How long have you been married ?
Do you have family close by ? Mom, Dad , Sister ?

How does he treat you besides the lying ?

[Rebounding]

I don't have family here. I am an asian. and he is a white.

His ex told me he is a serial cheater. And I believe everything he promised me, he promised his ex-wife or ex girlfriend.

He treated me ok, we have been married over a year now. And I am the one controlling finance, and I believe he think he is a damanged good, and that is why he listens to me now. That makes me feel better.

What bothers me is the trust issues and money issues. I wonder if those two issues can already break us.


Can the new baby save the marriage?

[sundrop]

I would have to say, that a baby may only add more stress.

[PYT]

Originally Posted by sundrop

I would have to say, that a baby may only add more stress.

I think this is correct. I was always told that you fix your problems before you have a baby and too many people make the mistake of thinking a baby will "save" their marriage. It's not fair to the child to put that pressure on them whether they ever find out it is there or not.