[At Peace]

I'm no stranger to this thread, and often I've offerred my advise and experience on moving on and getting over the pain of the heartbreak we've suffered with our ex's, but today after a period of coming to terms with it all, I actually woke up and wondered, HOW DO I START OVER? I'm keeping busy, and focusing on other things, but I there is this lurking shadow behind me saying asking me how do I start over, when for a large part of the relationship I was preoccupied with my ex and our relationship. In a certain, there is still this void of the absence of the relationship. I don't miss him as it was..I miss the not having someone that I had feelings for. The good feelings like desire and knowing I had a lover to laugh and share moments with. I don't know where to even begin thinking how to do that or find that again. This of course could be just today feeling blue...but despite going on with doing things I'm feeling actually a little lost now. Is this a phase?

[sanne]

yes this is a phase. i went through it for about a month and a half and i can honestly say it was the best thing to ever happen to me. what i came to realize is that my life was completely unbalanced and I was placing way too much importance on being in a relationship and having someone. i've been trying very hard to balance out my life, and I feel much better now than I did before. in fact, i met a wonderful girl at my work a few weeks ago when I least expected to. I know it's hard to not think about having a relationship, but you really just have to immerse yourself in things that you like to do.

[fundamental]

It's a phase. Keeping busy only delays the pain.

Accept PAIN...and TIME will heal you.

[RecordProducer]

I don't know if keeping busy delays the pain or helps, but I know if you do things that remind you of your ex you will feel worse. Going out with old friends when you feel like he should be there with you or having sex with strangers will make you feel worse. Been there.

I think meeting new interesting people and doing things that won't make you feel lonely are good. Take new classes, be at places where everyone is new and alone. Join dating sites to meet new friends. New friends will help you meet more people and possibly the right guy for you.

Find a new hobby, do something crazy, go on a vacation, re-decorate your place, have a part at your home...