[demonspawn]

hello all
first of all, let me tell u what happened...

I have been dating this girl for 10 months, and about 2 weeks ago, she broke it off with me. She said she couldnt see herself with me in 5 yrs and didnt feel secure with me. Now after the breakup, I can see why. During the beginning of our relationship, we had good times, but during the middle when I had hit 21, and for a great while, I was feeling that i shouldnt be with a girl and should be out partying and be single, but I wanted to give it time before i made a decision. So all that time i was with her, It was as if i didnt care much for the relationship and just took things how it went. After seeing a counselor and talks with many people, I found out that partying and such wont bring happiness and gets old, so during the last month or two together, I started realizing how valuable she was to me and started doing more things for her and trying to better our relationship. But before i had that chance, she broke it off with me, and now im hurt so badly and want her back. Om willing to tell her all this, and im willing to tell her im a new person, I will change, and show her through actions. I already talked to her about meeting up this week in person and to talk, but i didnt tell her what I want to talk about, can someone please give me more advice on how to win her back? I was just barely starting to love her and wanted to do so much more...thank you all

Just a few days ago, I landed up talking to her in person. I told her how sorry I was for being so careless and I couldnt stress the fact on how sorry I was. I told her that all we had was bad communication and if we both work with this, it can be fixed. I also told her I am willing to do anything to show it, cuz actions speak louder than words, I even went as far as promising her, reassuring her that Im a new person and know what I want now, and its to be with her for a long time. After talking more on the subject, she put her arms around me and cried on my shoulder, then she tilted my head up to her and kissed me...after a bit more talking on the subject of how id change, She said she was speechless and now needs time alone to think about what I said. Later, she had to go, so i walked her back home, we hugged, she kissed me on the cheek, then on the lips again and then went inside...I wanted to know, is the whole crying+kissing thing a good sign of her coming back? and how long does it really take someone to think about a problem such as bad communication over? well I really want to know, im trying not to keep my hopes up or down, but its been really hard to keep a balance, Im happy once, depressed the next....i would really appreciate anyones input...thanks